35F moving to FW to be closer to family. What is something you wish you knew when you moved to town? What is your favorite thing about living here? My sister is in the NW side of town but I imagine I will live somewhere downtown.
I had a surgical abortion under twilight sedation at 6w3d. My partner does not support abortion but claimed to understand that it was what I wanted given our circumstances — he was to report to a new station in the Navy soon, destination unknown, and likely deploy. He did not want to be at the procedure, so I went alone. I got my ultrasound and was informed there were TWO babies. It didn’t really faze me and if anything made me more confident in my decision — and made sense why I felt like complete shit. My partner was informed of multiple pregnancy and supportive until I fell asleep on the procedure table.
I don’t remember a thing and all went well to my knowledge. No one warns you about the physical changes afterwards, though. I do not regret my decision but I wish I knew about the cold sweats at night as hormones reset? Medication wears off? Night two was terrible.
The day after the procedure my partner resented me. He told me I killed our babies and he could not forgive me. I was completely abandoned. I asked him several times throughout the decision making process how he felt and if he would be able to forgive me and he “understood our circumstances” and reiterated over and over that we were a team who would get through this together. And in one night, everything changed. I am devastated. I begged him to be there for me as my body adjusted and he told me, “you can do it by yourself”.
Abortion really changes people. He had always been supportive.
Just remember that YOU decide what happens to YOUR body. You deserve someone who supports you. And if they don’t - LEAVE. You CAN do it by yourself. And you will be better for it.