At the beginning of this month and end of May, I applied to two IATSE unions. I haven’t heard back from them. I don’t really have any union experience. I just got off of a touring show using the ACT Union membership but now I’m looking to be involved locally.
Should I follow up or keep waiting? Summer is a busy season, I feel like I’m missing out!
Amidst an awful job market, getting ghosted by a union really sucks!
My boyfriend and I have been long distance for the last four months after we both worked a touring entertainment job together and he got fired. Before leaving the tour, he reassured me he’d be fine because he had construction work lined up with a friend’s company.
However, in the last three months he’s only worked a few hours total. He says his friend didn’t expect him to be back home so there haven’t been many shifts available. He also didn’t save any money from tour, so he’s been struggling financially.
At first I was very supportive. I suggested gig work and other job opportunities because he kept complaining about money and even asking me to DoorDash him food. Recently, I got frustrated and asked why he wasn’t actively looking for work. That’s when he admitted he actually does have other job opportunities available, but he refuses to take them because he wants to stay loyal to his friend’s company.
I told him that, from my perspective, he’s choosing to stay broke. I understand the job market can be hard, but he’s not really trying to improve his situation.
Now I’m flying out to see him for a long weekend next week. He told me he’s low on money and asked me to make a grocery list ahead of time so he could buy food before leaving his state using his food stamps. I told him I’d rather grocery shop together once I arrive, and honestly I don’t feel comfortable using his food stamps at all. I can pay for my own food.
I explained that food stamps are meant to help him because he’s struggling financially, not to “treat” me. I also told him I think he needs to focus more on getting stable financially instead of trying to spoil me with money/resources he doesn’t really have.
He seemed hurt by that, but I’m frustrated because he’s refusing other work opportunities, putting himself in this financial situation, and then trying to play provider anyway.
AITA for telling my boyfriend not to use his food stamps on me and that he needs to get his priorities in order?