u/Sea-Alternative-6983

I’ve been dating a girl for around 6 months. I started noticing weird behavior from her around 4 months in, but no concrete evidence of anything so I just chalked it up to me needing to trust her.

Today, she booked a Disney hotel room. I met her at the pool bar around 5, we had a few drinks and talked about our future together. I quite literally looked her right in the eye and told her to please not break my heart. I then told her that you have my complete trust until I have a reason to lose it. She agreed and said some sentiments back.

The pool bar had closed, so we went up to the room for me to unpack my bag and stay the night. While in the bathroom unpacking, I had to move the garbage can on the floor. Underneath the garbage can was a used condom wrapper. I immediately asked her about it, she paused for about 10 seconds and looked me in the eye, and told me that she slept with someone last night. I packed up, wished her the best, and suggested professional help.

I’m truly at a loss for words at how people can be this sick and crazy. We had literally just spent a few hours prior talking about our future together, and how she would always be loyal to me. Meanwhile, she slept with someone 12 hours prior.

Edit: Thank you everyone for the kind words. This has been a traumatic experience for me, as I’ve never been cheated on before. I’m seeking therapy now and have a session scheduled for Monday.

We’ve been dating for about a month. We’ve slept together multiple times. She checked into her Disney vacation resort (a few minutes from my house) on Monday, and all week we’ve had plans to hang out very late Wednesday and for me to spend the night so we can watch a movie in the room.

Monday comes around and she texts me that her girl friend will be visiting but only for Monday night and staying in the room with her. Tuesday (today) comes around, and my girlfriend calls me ranting and complaining about how this girl won’t leave the room and is basically now freeloading on her. Yet, they’re both posting pictures of each other on Instagram, hugging in the hotel lobby and holding beer cans. I was warned that she may stay another night which would stop me from staying in the room with her the night we planned.

This entire thing is suspicious to me, and just seems like I’m being sidelined for someone else. If my girlfriend was that annoyed by this girl “freeloading”, then I’m not understanding why she just won’t ask her to leave.

Around a month ago, I broke up with a girl I was dating. She lives 2 hours from me, but she travels to my area for work and leisure on almost a weekly basis. We met and talked on Instagram for around 6 months before we met in person at her resort near my house, and she admitted she wants us to be exclusive. I’ve always felt incredibly compatible with her. Our dates and physical intimacy are the best I’ve ever had. The main issue I had which led to the breakup is that she’s very free spirited and seems to keep her life at home and life when she’s in my town compartmentalized and separate from each other. I just never felt like I was fully a part of her life at home, and our relationship was a weekly fling when she’s in my town.

Two nights ago she reached out to me hysterically crying and apologized for hurting me, and offered to let me meet her at her hotel where she was staying 5 minutes from my house. We ended up sleeping together and she drove to my house to spend the night. We then spent all day together and had an incredible time. I confirmed with her multiple times that we’re back to being exclusive and won’t see other people. She said that’s what she wants, too.

She’s checking out tomorrow and going back home. She warned me that she likely isn’t doing a trip to my town next week. It’s Memorial Day weekend and I have nothing to do at home.

I want this relationship to work this time around, and I’m trying to figure out how to handle it differently and not break up again. I’m thinking of asking if I can drive over and spend Memorial Day weekend at her house. And if she says she already has plans, then I’ll offer the following week. My thought is that I need to see the entire side of her that I have not seen yet, because right now, we just sleep together and hang out while she’s in my town. It feels like a fling with someone I’m incredibly compatible with.

Did I make a mistake here? My thoughts are just spinning now that I’m alone and not with her.