u/Sea-Ant1683

Should I (31F) break up with a good guy(33M)?

I (31F) am engaged to a really nice guy( 33M) . However….

I didn’t start dating him because we had something in common or because I was attracted to him or really admired him.I did this because I was under immense pressure to get married ( by my family, society etc etc).
Somewhere along though, I knew that it has to be a loving relationship, because we should strive for these things, right? So, I learned to care for him and love him.
But here’s the catch
As he’s not really someone I would have loved, we don’t have anything in common, no interests or likes or anything, he can’t be the guy I can have all those romantic moments I imagined as a teenager or young adult. It’s a very “ can do” kind of relationship.

The relationship is easy, no big red flags, small fights here and there. But neither do I have any butterflies nor any real passion about this guy.

Should I break the engagement and walk away?

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u/Sea-Ant1683 — 1 day ago

Should I break up with a really good guy?

I (31F)am engaged to a really nice guy(33M). However….

I didn’t start dating him because we had something in common or because I was attracted to him or really admired him.I did this because I was under immense pressure to get married ( by my family, society etc etc).
Somewhere along though, I knew that it has to be a loving relationship, because we should strive for these things, right? So, I learned to care for him and love him.
But here’s the catch
As he’s not really someone I would have loved, we don’t have anything in common, no interests or likes or anything, he can’t be the guy I can have all those romantic moments I imagined as a teenager or young adult. It’s a very “ can do” kind of relationship.

The relationship is easy, no big red flags, small fights here and there. But neither do I have any butterflies nor any real passion about this guy.

Should I break the engagement and walk away?

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u/Sea-Ant1683 — 1 day ago