u/SeaAbbreviations1339

I I’ve noticed something in my surroundings. There are people who don’t really overthink life. They don’t stress too much about goals, plans, or trying to control everything. It feels like they just live more freely, without thinking too deeply about every detail.

What’s interesting is that even though they don’t seem to plan everything or analyze life much, things still somehow work out for them. They often look happier and more relaxed, especially in social situations, compared to people who overthink a lot.

When I try to be more like that, it doesn’t really work for me. I always end up thinking too much again.

Has anyone else experienced this or noticed the same thing?

I want to share some honest thoughts I’ve been having recently. I’m still young, but these are things I’ve started to understand about people and life.

Don’t trust everyone. Sometimes even friends can hurt you. Being too open can backfire, especially when you share too much.

Don’t try to please everyone. You don’t need to adjust yourself for everyone. Most people won’t even appreciate it.

You’re not that important to many people. If someone doesn’t text or call you, maybe you’re just convenient for them, not really important.

Some people will be jealous of your success. Even small progress can trigger negative reactions. Not everyone will be happy for you.

Truth doesn’t matter to everyone. Many people care more about their benefit than what is actually true. Some can even twist situations.

Don’t rely too much on others. If you can do something yourself, it’s better. Independence makes you stronger.

Friends come and go. Even close friendships can end because of situations or behavior.

Sport helps mentally. Even if you’re lazy sometimes, sport builds discipline, confidence, and strength.

Disrespect shouldn’t be ignored. If someone doesn’t respect you, it’s better to distance yourself or respond properly.

This is just my personal view, not a rule for everyone.

I have lived in Germany for almost 10 years, but I still cannot speak German comfortably. My level is probably around B1/B2. I go to a normal school, but it is very hard for me to express my thoughts naturally.
The biggest problems for me are:
Akkusativ vs Dativ

Prepositions like “an”, “auf”, “in”, etc.

People always explain it like:
movement = Akkusativ

no movement = Dativ

And I also know the questions:
wohin?

wo?

wem?

wen?

But for me this logic still does not feel natural. I understand the rules, but I do not FEEL them.
Another difficult thing is that many prepositions also have abstract or social meanings, not only physical ones. For example, sometimes “auf”, “an”, or “in” are used in ways that are impossible for me to understand logically.
My native language does not really have grammar like this, so I cannot compare it to anything.
Can somebody explain these topics in a very logical/simple way, almost like explaining to a child? Maybe with some kind of “formula” or mental system that actually works in real life.
I would really appreciate help from people who also struggled with this before.