u/Sea_Witch7777

Does anyone write or want to share about about how community living affects marriages and the nuclear family?

I've experienced a small taste of how sharing "kitchen table intimacy" with neighbors can blur what would elsewhere be firm emotional boundaries, and how sharing labor outside your own immediate household can shift the tone in "exclusive" relationships, whether or not there is also physical / sexual involvement outside the lines.

I'm interested in hearing others' insights and experiences on this, from both couples and singles living in community, as well as from both parents and childfree folks: does community living inherently challenge patriarchal relationship structures, at least on some level?

Thanks for sharing your own thoughts or any resources I might want to look into :)

I’m posting here because I find this community is better at understanding nuanced connections without immediate judgment. I recently experienced a profound attunement with a married man in my community on a 2 week group trip. We didn't know each other previously but immediately clicked and talked about meeting up in the future.

During the trip, he showed a lot of provider / protector behavior toward me, which I really enjoyed, and found insanely attractive. It felt like I had finally found someone who liked me for exactly who I was, flaws and all. Someone who enjoyed engaging with me in my vulnerable moments and could be for me who I couldn't be for myself, a perfect counterbalance to my repressed feminine energy that allowed me to let go of my lifelong hyper-independence.

Generally this dynamic happened when his wife wasn't around, and he seemed less animated and less alive around her (I feel so cringe saying that because I know marriage is complicated and heavy by definition and I'm not trying to say I'm "better" for him. I'm just adding this info in case it helps put the pieces together about the nature of this connection). But I also hung out with his whole family, got along well with his wife and played with his kids. He asked me to babysit the kids so he and his wife could go parasailing or something. It didn't happen but I felt open to the idea of becoming a village with their family in that way (I also have a child of my own who is begging for siblings that I can't give her). We talked in an abstract way about community living being something we're all looking for. Lots of shared values.

I'm actually unclear on whether this was a romantic dynamic with him or just friendliness, as it's not something I've experienced on this level before. Some other little things that really touched me deeply were him playfully interrupting me while I was talking to someone else to help me understand I was missing a social cue, offering me "real food" when he saw my sad little protein shake, checking in with me when a guy was making me uncomfortable. I literally need someone like this in my life and didn't realize it until I met him.

I'm back home now and can't stop thinking about him. I want to send a follow-up message acknowledging the connection, as being in his presence impacted me a lot and I found it so healing, and I am not sure he knows that because I tend to not express myself easily in the moment. I like telling people things like that and expressing appreciation even if it doesn't "go anywhere." But I don't want to mishandle the situation. Since he’s married, I want to be incredibly careful with boundaries and not message him anything that could sound like an acknowledgment of an emotional affair, whether it was or wasn't, if that could make things awkward in his marriage. Again, I don't know what this connection was to him or what it seems like from the outside so I'd appreciate some perspective.

For those of you used to non-traditional dynamics: How do you tell the difference between 'soul-level platonic attunement' and 'romantic connection' in the early stages? I'm someone who definitely connects with people based on personality more than looks and doesn't get physical early on so it's not like anything happened between us that would make it super obvious. I want to maintain the connection either way as I value what he brings to my life, but having clarity on this will help me figure out how to approach it. Although, if it was romantic energy and it could not continue, I would probably not want to be just friends because how we were together on the trip is what I want more of.

I'm hoping that either it was not romantic and we can be good friends, or that it was romantic and there is potential for more. But I have no idea how to approach this and want to send a message that doesn't screw anything up.

Thanks for any insights.

Is anyone here on Wellbutrin, or has taken it in the past? I had the side effect of chest pain which my cardiologist said was due to adrenaline. Just curious if anyone else experienced that and if it eventually passed, or if you had to stop taking Wellbutrin because it was so uncomfortable.

(To be clear, this is not a medical emergency, I am not asking for medical advice, and my medical team is fully aware of and supporting me in managing my condition, medication and aide effects.)

Thank you!

I want to ask adults who really love this game and play quite a lot: What do you think about kids spending several hours a day on it? Do you see it as a game that can have negative effects, or take a toll psychologically for younger people? Do you think it has addictive potential because the rarity of being imp leading to a gambling mindset? Or do you see it as mostly positive and only potentially harmful if a child has preexisting mental health or social challenges?

I'm specifically asking in this sub vs a parenting group on Facebook (for example) because people who don't even like or play video games tend to assume they are all a waste of time and lead to brain rot, without considering the specific game in question. For reference, I am a parent who also plays the game. Not a lot, just a few games here and there when my child wants me to join them. And I guess since I like it enough to join this sub, you could say I also like it a lot.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

Can I take a prescription from one EU country, like the Netherlands, and get it filled in another, like Portugal?

And if it should work in theory, does it work in practice?

To clarify, this is for a non-controlled substance, and I'm not asking if I can take medication across borders. So I won't reply to comments that just say "get it before you leave."

Thanks!