u/Secret_Zucchini2494

The above usually happens whenever I say something seems off or I express criticism, and he's like: 'Oh, you must know well since you did XYZ'.

As if I am or should be the same person I was over 20 years ago!

He does it with a bitchy attitude, as if he wants to put me in my place. In the long run, I will definitely distance myself, but how would you all handle it?

Hi everyone,

I'm looking for a quiet(ish) place to spend two nights in Malta and would like some advice on non-touristy areas.

I understand that I should avoid Sliema and St Julian's as they are busy and have a lot of nightlife.

I'm also going to spend a few days in Gozo, so I was thinking of trying somewhere else as well.

I'm considering Valletta or Mdina because I'm interested in history, but I'd like to hear your thoughts – is there a quieter place nearby that would be better? If you think Valletta or Medina would be fine, is there a specific area you would recommend or avoid?

Thanks in advance!

I love this friend dearly, and she's great in every other way, but this is the second time she's asked me for money in about two years.

She is generally irresponsible with money. If you're not in a good financial situation, I believe you should temporarily give up things you can't afford, such as getting your nails done or going on holiday.

The first time she borrowed money, she bought two pairs of shoes and other clothes before paying me back. I feel that you should pay back your debts before spending money on other things!

She has now asked for money again, and I have lent it to her. She has recently been complaining about how expensive life is, despite having just returned from a weekend away. It feels like she expects me to let her keep the money, as I did last time when I let her keep half of it (it was a small amount).

For context, I have been unemployed for two years and am saving to start a project. I'm avoiding going on holiday and limiting my spending — I'm saving! Unlike me, she's employed!!

I don't want to ruin our friendship of almost 20 years, but I'm really uncomfortable with this. Ideally, I would like to tell her to manage her finances better, and that I'm sorry she's struggling, but it's not my responsibility. However, I realise this would be too harsh. On the other hand, I think it's disrespectful to ask me for money again when she knows I can't give her any.

I would probably feel differently if she were financially responsible and this were an exception, but sadly, I cannot say that. It's ridiculous that I give up on things I'd like to do, and she sees that, just to pursue my goal, and then lend her money.

What are your thoughts?