u/Select_Mistake_9003

I am a 19M college student and my 2nd year has recently finished.

There is a girl in my class whom I have liked for around a year. We have never had a proper one-on-one conversation, but we have talked a few times in group situations before.

She is part of a friend group that is different from mine. My class has different groups, and her group is one of the bigger ones. There are also two girls in her group who have a reputation for being difficult, so many people in class don't really interact much with that group. Because of this, I also never got a natural chance to talk to her more.

I know something about my thinking might be wrong because I have become very attached to someone I don't actually know deeply. Initially I noticed her because I found her attractive, but over time I started thinking about her more and more.

Now it has reached a point where she is constantly in my mind.

During exams, she was sitting a few benches ahead of me and I found it hard to focus because I kept thinking about her. I imagine conversations, friendship, relationships, future situations, etc.

The confusing part is that I feel genuinely hurt imagining her with another guy, even though she is not my girlfriend and we don't have that kind of connection.

I don't want to be creepy or cross boundaries. I actually want to know what the right thing to do is.

I don't have her Instagram, and college is currently on summer break. When college reopens after a few months, should I:

try to slowly talk to her and get to know the real person?

try connecting through social media?

or should I accept that this is just an unhealthy attachment and move on?

I think my biggest fear is not rejection. It's never finding out whether there could have been something.

Would appreciate honest advice from people who have experienced something similar.

Hi everyone,

I’m looking for some guidance regarding joining the Indian Air Force (and defence forces in general).

My background:

11th–12th: Commerce with Mathematics

Graduation: BA in Economics

Vision: -1.25 & -1.75 (wear specs)

My questions:

1. Since I don’t have Physics in 12th, can I give Physics through NIOS and then become eligible for the flying branch (pilot)?

2. What roles can I apply in IAF for the Permanent Commission with my current qualifications?

3. Would the Indian Army be a better option for me compared to the Air Force, considering my background?

4. Which exam should I focus on preparing for CDS or AFCAT?

I’d really appreciate advice from anyone with experience or knowledge about this process.

Thanks in advance!