u/Sensitive-Research93

I’m 5’10”/178cm which I feel is too short compared to many guys I see in person and online. I’ve had people tell me I’m tall most of of my life, but I don’t feel tall enough. All of my cousins from New England are taller and bigger than me, so I feel dwarfed at family gatherings. I feel too short, like an easy target for criminals, like an incel, and like less of a man because of it. Part of the reason im short is due to a possibly delayable scoliosis surgery I got at 13; my wingspan is 6’3”/190cm. All I want is to be taller and I can never achieve it in my life; I feel horrible and like a joke in my body, and it’s ruining my mental health and ability to enjoy anything in life. Thoughts?

I’m 5’10”, but my armspan is 6’2”. Most of my male relatives are around that height. My father didn’t make me do anything physical as a kid other than passive swimming, and didn’t make me wear my brace when I didn’t want to in middle school, which was shortly before I got surgery at 13. My cousins who are taller than me are all more respected by the family and each other than me. Should I hate my father?