How did y'all find out you're non-binary? What does it mean to you?
Elo yall! Soo im a bit unsure
Im 19 and i've been 'actively' bi and demi for quite some time now - it was a long way tho finding that out, coming from a conservative family... Also probably neurodivergent and sex repulsed.
Many of my friends are queer in some way or another. One of my friends is non-binary, thats how i first got to know about this term.
In the past i had never questioned that i could be anything else than a cis hetero man - as already mentioned i was quite wrong about the hetero thing >< And its now that i've also started thinking more about the "am i a man?" part.
Id just present my 'evidence' / thoughts and... maybe that resonates with someone? I dont want any answers, I'll have to give them to myself ofc but maybe it would help to hear about yall's experiences 🙈
So,
I know that for a long time i've always felt a little 'strange' about being referred to as a man. Like i was secretly gaslighting others that i am one and then feeling dishonest (?) in some way that it worked? Even tho i wasnt gaslighting anyone ofc.
Also i think im indifferent to pronouns? Like, I've been "he" for my entire life and i think thats okay. But..
"You wanna say 'they'?" Okayyy yea alrighty
"You refer to me as 'she'?" Uhh Okayy? I mean that would be strange at first cuz of it being unfamiliar. But I wouldn't give a fuck I think. Maybe it would even feel nice in some way. "hey can you help her real quick?", that doesn't sound bad.
Same with clothing. I wanna get even more into alternative style. But like, neutral? I don't wanna look like a strong male or smth, but also not too feminine? Preferably a perfectly androgynous style with mixed elements.
It's like, I just have my name in my head but no thoughts after that. Nothing thats tied to gender?
Lastly i dont think im experiencing dysphoria. (i know that this is not a definite yes/no criteria). I do have issues with "having a body" in general but thats for different reasons i think.
Yeaaa so very long text, sorry about that haha 😅
(also yea, this is a new account, i feel more comfortable with that)