I’m 17 AFAB and I was wondering if I can consider myself non binary if I dress more feminine as someone who wears alternative/emo fashion, I want to try get more into a more androgynous style but unsure how too!
Hello, all! I am a teen. I've been identifying as nonbinary for about a few weeks after five months of questioning. I am also agender.
I started thinking I could be nonbinary around March 2026. It was just a couple random thoughts, like 'What if I was like, neither really a girl or boy?' They were very out-of-the-blue, so I shut it down. But I came across a nonbinary youtuber who dressed very androgynous and talked about their gender identity and fashion. I really wanted to look like that.
Anyways, i was in a lot of questioning turmoil and was a bit upset about it. I had a pretty hyperfeminine childhood as an AFAB person up until I turned 12. I wanted to go by she/they pronouns for a bit, then realized I didn't really care what pronouns people used. I hated the idea of questioning my gender, before realizing two years later that I'm agender. Still now, I'm having trouble accepting my gender. I've cut my hair and am getting a new wardrobe, so everything feels like me.
But there's one thing that has been bothering me lately: my chest. I would like a binder and yet I can't get one. I've been wearing sport bras for a bit but it still bothers me for some reason. WHY IS IT BOTHERING ME?????
I remember hearing about binders the first time, and was thinking 'Oh, cool. i wonder what that would be like.' Somehow that 'curiosity' turned into me wanting a flat chest??? Like, I was raised in Christianity. God gave me a female body. Why do i want to change it all of a sudden? And I had a hyperfem childhood, I cannot be trans. it's impossible. The only way for to get a binder is if I had some sort of gender dysphoria, and I don't.
Help, please. Does anyone know what I should do or why i feel like this all of a sudden?
