u/Separate-Town-145

He left our home that he owns and bought before we were married or had a child. It was just so sudden. We have a 1 year old son who he left with me. The next day he texted me and explained that he left our joint account and that I’m now responsible for it. I checked the account and he completely drained it besides $500. Within only a couple of days the account is negative because of pending charges that went through and overdraft charges. He said if I need something for our son to ask him.
Mind you my income is way less than his. At this point he has only said that “we are taking a break” but he’s being very vague. After the bank account situation I suddenly got this dark deep pit in my stomach. I checked our counties public record search and it suddenly made sense. He filed for divorce. I had no idea. For two days he said it was just a break.

All this being said he knew what he was doing. His plan was to literally take any and all security from me possible. Financially and emotionally. He knew I would be in panic mode. I quickly went and cancelled every possible automatic payment I had so that I wouldn’t continue to overdraft the account. I switched my direct deposit so that I could at least save some money to figure out what I’m going to do.

He’s been gone from our home now for 5 days and he has seen our son for 10 minutes since he left. He will not be in the home at the same time as me. He’s cut off all contact besides issues with our son.

I haven’t been able to call any attorneys because of the long weekend but tomorrow I will be calling and calling. I don’t have much money. I don’t have family or support from anyone I am completely 100% on my own and he knows this. He’s taking advantage.

We’ve been having issues in our marriage for several months off and on. Nothing related to cheating or affairs or physical abuse. Just literally not being compatible and not being able to ever agree on anything.

Please someone give me some kind of reassurance. Any kind of advice to make me feel better. I’m so scared! I can’t believe this is happening.

Please tell me I’m not a “psycho” like I’ve been called. My husband and I have been married for all of 2 years. Together for only 3.5. We have a baby. I work he works we all work. I found out about his porn addiction post marriage. Told me he’d stop. Caught him. Told me he’s sorry and would stop. Caught him. Also found out he was searching up old flings on fb and I get it we are all curious about past relationships or crushes. I would have gotten over it quickly if it wasn’t multiple times of the same couple of women. He told our marriage therapist he has a porn addiction and that he would go to therapy for that. He never did. I have 0 trust in this man. ZERO. I have no idea where he is, who he’s talking to, what he’s doing on his phone. And that’s just it. That’s how he wants it. We have fights about “how are you going to gain my trust back?..what are you going to do to gain my trust back?” He said “it doesn’t matter”. 😂 we had one fight where I had literally just couldn’t take it anymore..last straw kind of thing. I saw he had sent a woman a fire emoji..one of the women he had searched for a couple of times. I took his phone and slapped him in the face. First and last physical altercation.

Anyway he told his parents EVERYTHING..like they find out everything in real time like they are live!

Not only do I have a husband who doesn’t care if i trust him but I have a husband that tells his parents everything. I can’t get over either one . What in the world do I do?

P.S. he gets upset that I don’t love his parents and want to spend so much time with them. Hanging out with people you aren’t close to that know very vulnerable and sensitive information about you is absolutely not something anyone would choose to do.