u/Severe_Vanilla_1870

How are people affording to move out right now?!? Genuinely?!? I turned 26 2 months ago and got my masters so I’m projected to earn 85,000 once I’m promoted. Doing the math you would think more money but the additional expense of student loan payments and health insurance now that I aged out of my parents insurance and my six months deferment period adds up.

What do you guys suggest? And/or how are you guys doing it?

My parents are so toxic I want to move out but I have to save once I get my pay increase for six months to feel at least somewhat secure.

What’s the secret? What are we doing? Are we all just living paycheck to paycheck to leave our toxic households?

Hi! For the past 3 years of my life I’ve been trying to move out of my parents house. Throughout this time I busted my ass working full time and going to school full time for my graduate degree. After I graduated I stopped working and used my savings to get by to study for an exam I needed to pass for work. The full time work, full time school and full time toxic environment at home took a huge mental toll on me. Fast forward now I’m waiting for my licensing to be finalized so I still can’t work. I’m running out of money that I had saved but I realized I don’t want to be in NJ anymore. I rather move somewhere else and get more bang for my buck. But I’m afraid the little money I have left won’t get me by to move to where I want to which is AZ.

Idk what to do… I have a job offer here in NJ but I can’t start until August due to said license being finalized. And I don’t even want to live in NJ anymore, the weather sucks, I have no friends, no boyfriend, no family to depend on. I’m not sure what to do.

Do I leave NJ with the little money I have left or Do I stay home for a little while once I start working. I just don’t think I can take being here anymore. I’m mentally and emotionally spent.

26 female and I thought I’d have the answers at this age after passing my exam and getting my degree to make more money. But I just don’t I need help…

Feeling discouraged.

I previous worked with A company a couple years ago and was getting my supervision done at B company. When I was finishing my supervision B company told me they would not be hiring anymore BCBAs - so I quit to study for the exam. Fast forward I pass the exam and reached out to A company to see if they would hire me.

They told me they would have support for me, x, y, and z. We agree on some terms and they tell me they’ll send me an offer letter tomorrow.

I get a call from the Clinical Director saying they may not have the support needs as an entry level BCBA. Because I told them I didn’t have much experience with parent training, goal writing or supervising rbts. I have a little bit of experience supervising onboarding rbts, goal writing experience from grad school but not on CR, and have worked in home with families but have not provided formal parent training.

I’m feeling like I’m unprepared and there won’t be a company out there to help me out entry level while paying me a livable wage. I’m getting discouraged if I can prosper in this field. If my support needs are too high :/

What do you guys think? Any suggestions? Brutal honesty is welcome.