What is your sharing status and why?
For years, I have identified as “non-sharing”. One of the main reasons for this is because I have seen self-shippers act absolutely cruel to their doubles. Some of them have even went as far as to send death threats to their doubles. This made me worry about the same things happening to me.
Luckily, while I have never directly dealt with a double attacking me, I have stumbled across possessive doubles when I was with previous fictional others, some of them acted absolutely horrendous.
Furthermore, without going into detail, I have also stumbled upon doubles who were rude and suspicious in other ways. Even if it is outside of self shipping, it does further make me wary.
HOWEVER, a part of me has lately started questioning if I might be “mirror-sharing” instead.
If you don’t know what “mirror-sharing” is, it means your sharing status corresponds to the sharing status of each double (e.g. you are find with sharing with “sharers”, but not with “non-sharers”).
I have had chill, sharing doubles with previous fictional others. Knowing that my doubles (and self-shippers of characters I crush on in general) are “sharing” helps me to feel a lot more relaxed around them. It even makes me think to myself: “You know what? Maybe I can share with YOU.”
I still have anxiety when it comes to doubles by default and in general, but if I learn about them being okay with sharing, I feel a lot more relaxed around them specifically.
For now, I voted “unsure”, but I might try being “mirror-sharing” soon.