u/SignificanceMore4027

20F Never Dated | Sri Lanka

i'm 20 and i've never been in a relationship.

not because i never wanted one, but because i've never been able to convince myself to settle for something that didn't feel genuine. i've had crushes, i've wondered "what if," but i've always been the type to overthink rather than jump into something just because everyone else was...I usually consider myself as a man hater but little did I know I'm just a softie with a heavy heart and a overthinking mind

i guess i've always believed that if i ever date someone, i want it to be with intention. i don't really care about showing a relationship off online or making it my entire personality. i'd rather have something that's quiet, honest, and ours.

i'm definitely more of a listener than a talker at first, but once i'm comfortable, i can talk for hours. i love rom com movies, beach sunsets, long rides , random late-night conversations, and spending way too much time with knowing each other and building a bond which is real ...

i appreciate people who are kind, emotionally mature, funny without trying too hard, and who know how to communicate. loyalty is probably the most attractive quality someone can have. And yh I like ppl around my age like 20,21,22 or 23 ...it's kinda hard having conversations with ppl who are older than that cause idk what to talk ... so obviously I can't date someone whose more than 4 yrs older than me cause it would be awkward for me ..

i'm not really looking for perfection..i only look for the height when it comes to looks cause all my family members are tall . i just think it'd be nice to meet someone who feels safe to be around. someone who makes ordinary days a little more exciting and understands that the best relationships are built on friendship first.

if you relate to any of this, i'd genuinely love to hear your perspective. tell me something about yourself anything, really.

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u/SignificanceMore4027 — 22 hours ago

Should i date a someone? Will i be able to do that everr ....?

I'm a girl and I just hit 20... and yh I've never experienced love from a boy ... even for a bit ... like that's so odd like idk why but that happens... like I always hv crushes just to spice up my life and ik that's not good cause crush is a crush I don't want them to like me back and yh ... Andd I think that my standards are soo high cause I don't want to end up with someone who I don't fell in love unconditionally with .. it just scares me cause I don't want to be in a relationship cause what if it turns out bad so I'm scared .. Also guys won't approach me .. neverr it isn't because I'm ugly (ig so) mostly because I look tough but deep inside I'm just a lover girl .... what can I do... I can't live like thisss.. I want someone to love me but no matter how long I wait no one would come to my life ... I believe I'm the love rn .. cause I do make everyone feel loved but it doesn't come to me .. sometimes I'm so sad I really want someone.. idk what to say even .. I'm just unlucky ig ..

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u/SignificanceMore4027 — 23 hours ago