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Dear members,

I’m not really sure where to begin, but I’ll try to keep this short and straight to the point.

I’m a recovering drug addict. Some time ago, I was introduced to sleeping pills, and over time I started abusing them. Around the same period, I was diagnosed with epilepsy, and seizures became a part of my life as well.

Before all this, I was doing very well professionally and was proud of the work I did. But slowly, everything started falling apart. I began borrowing money from friends to support my habit and eventually lost almost everyone around me.

Realizing the chaos I was creating in my own life, I decided to seek help and joined a rehab program that was run as a religious camp. I genuinely believed that after 8 months, I would walk out as a completely changed man, free from addiction and ready to rebuild my life.

Sadly, that experience turned into one of the darkest periods of my life.

To put it mildly, it felt more like a prison. The priests had no real idea what was happening inside, and the place was mainly controlled by senior inmates. I went through severe abuse there.

Two weeks after I was admitted, my father passed away. I don’t even properly remember my family visiting to tell me the news because by then I was completely mentally and physically broken. Apparently, I was running into walls and behaving abnormally without even realizing it.

Eventually, a friend of mine intervened and insisted I needed urgent medical treatment because “this is not him anymore.” I had to be carried to the hospital because I couldn’t even stand on my own. I barely remember any of it.

At the hospital, I was diagnosed with severe burns inside my mouth because they used to force me to gulp down boiling hot tea while counting from 10 to 1, threatening consequences if I failed. I was also diagnosed with bacterial meningitis, and doctors later told me that if I had arrived a few days later, I might not have survived.

Since then, I’ve developed a deep fear of rehabs.

Sadly, I’ve now fallen back into my old habit of taking sleeping pills again. I know I cannot overcome this completely on my own, but I also cannot go back to a place that feels like a jail or puts my life at risk.

What I’m looking for is guidance, support, or recommendations for a safer and more humane path to recovery. If anyone knows of a therapist, rehabilitation program, or recovery support system that genuinely helps people with dignity and care, I would deeply appreciate it. And if someone is willing to sponsor therapy sessions or guide me toward recovery, I would be forever grateful.

I can clearly see how this cycle is hurting the people who love and care about me, especially my family. I don’t want to keep dragging them through the same pain.

I know I am better than this, and I genuinely want to get my life back.

Thank you for taking the time to read this ❤

Well settled and happily settled now would like to have the companionship of a nice sugar baby if yr Lankan and interested let’s connect any age or body type or skin color

as title says,

m25 here

I can cook, clean and im really good with my hands

message me and we can discuss more if youre interested:)

My girlfriend (24F undergraduate) is looking for a fun, decent, and attractive male best friend for chats, vibes, and a casual timepass connection.

Must be educated, respectful, and good at conversations.

I know this is weird to post here, so guys please don’t turn this into jokes.

I’m an introvert guy, brown/dark-brown, skinny, and really quiet in real life. I’ve never been good at talking to girls or socializing much in general. Most of the time I just stay in my own head and overthink instead of actually speaking.

Sometimes it feels like only loud, confident people get noticed, while people like me just stay invisible in the background.

I’m not looking for anything fake or some movie-type relationship. I just want to meet a girl who’s similar in nature — introverted, calm, maybe awkward too. Someone who understands silence and doesn’t expect me to act confident all the time.

And yeah, I know Reddit isn’t a dating app. I just wanted to be honest somewhere for once because keeping everything inside gets exhausting sometimes.

MARRIED COUPLES ONLY !!! PLEASE READ THIS MESSAGE CAREFULLY. We are a married couple age 29 & 35 from Rajagiriya. We have one kid and living a respectful life. We are looking for a married couple to be good friends, share intimate things, go on trips, casual meet ups and if things vibe we love to try SRSP. Strictly we will not have sex with the other couple. ONLY SRSP. Prefer if you are in Colombo. We are strictly not into video sex chats or sexting with the other partner. If you think you are a suitable and genuine couple please DM us ! Looking forward for a long term relationship. Single boys, Unmarried couples please stay away!!!

19F btw. Sue me. Before you come at me with the whole “oHh foCUs On YoUrsElF”, “bE iNdepEndeNt” yada yada, I KNOW WHAT IM DOING LOL. I want a cute guy to go on dates with and to be spoilt without having to ask for it? Like LOVE ME? Also I love guys who workout and stay fit, I do too so yay!

A girl wants what a girl wants.

ALSO I SPEAK REALLY GOOD ENGLISH AND IM PRETTY DECENT MANNERED (sort of) so take that 🫶🏻

I don’t even know why I’m writing this. Maybe because I’ve kept everything inside for too long.

My story started so randomly.

One day I saw this pretty girl on Instagram and replied to one of her stories. Nothing serious, just a normal reply. Back then she was already dating someone, and she told me that pretty quickly, so I respected it and stopped texting her.

Months passed.

Then one day I saw her posting heartbreak-type stories, so I decided to try talking to her again. Somehow things clicked this time. Suddenly she wanted to meet after one of her classes. She was really shy back then, and honestly everything happened so suddenly that I just thought, “Okay… maybe let’s give this a try.”

That “try” turned into almost two years.

Those two years were not perfect at all. We had so many challenges, misunderstandings, stress, and problems, but through everything I genuinely never gave up on her.

Then eventually I became mentally exhausted. I was stressed about life, work, everything. I asked for a break in the relationship.

Yeah… maybe that makes me the bad guy.

But after just about a month, I suddenly saw her posting another guy.

That moment destroyed me.

I wasn’t even in Sri Lanka at the time. I was abroad for work, but seeing that broke me so badly that I literally cancelled my contract early just to come back home. I tried calling her. At first she answered a few times while I was abroad, but eventually she blocked me completely.

When I came back to Sri Lanka, I thought maybe I should finally give up. But one day I went to speak with her mother just for closure. We spoke for a few minutes, and right after leaving my head was such a mess that I got into an accident literally nearby. Thankfully I was okay. I fixed the other person’s bike and handled everything, but mentally I was already destroyed.

A few days later, out of nowhere, she called me.

She started telling me how toxic her current relationship was. Hearing her voice again after everything made me feel alive again. I thought maybe this was finally my chance.

Then literally days later I saw another post with that same guy again.

I got upset and finally told her she needed to choose one person instead of keeping both situations alive. We met in my car one night. She cried. I believed every word she said because I loved her too much not to.

Then a few days later she called again asking to meet.

That night became one of the worst nights of my life.

She handed me a letter saying she wasn’t into me anymore and wanted to continue with the other guy.

I still remember how shocked I felt. I instantly started crying in front of her. I couldn’t even control it. I somehow drove away, but halfway through I physically couldn’t drive anymore because I was crying so hard. I called my brother and he came to pick me up within minutes.

While I was sitting there broken, she kept calling me. I ignored the calls. Then her mom called. I answered.

Her mom said she wanted to talk to me again, so I went back. Then suddenly she started saying she wanted me again. More crying. More confusion. More hope.

And stupidly… I believed it again.

That night she was supposed to go to university the next morning. I offered to drop her, but she said she wanted a break and wouldn’t go.

The next day?

Blocked again.

That completely shattered me.

I called her mom and she finally told me:

“She blocked both of you. You need to move on.”

But I couldn’t.

I tried every possible way to contact her. Called from new numbers just to hear her voice for a few seconds before she realized it was me and cut the call.

Weeks passed.

Then somehow anonymous Tellonym messages started appearing, and deep down I knew it was her. We eventually got connected again through that, then moved to Telegram.

By then her relationship with that guy had also ended again.

So we started meeting secretly.

There were days I drove 4 hours just to see her for a little while, then drove another 4 hours back home the same night. I honestly lost count of how many times I did that. I don’t even think she realized how exhausting it was physically and mentally, but I kept doing it because I loved her.

Then I had to go abroad again for work.

Even while abroad, I still cared for her constantly. I sent her food through Uber Eats, comforted her during hard times, checked on her constantly.

When I came back to Sri Lanka after a month, I brought her favorite perfume, a pair of shoes, and other small gifts. Her parents instantly knew it was from me.

But after some time I started realizing something painful.

Even after all the effort, all the waiting, all the sacrifices… she just didn’t seem into me anymore.

Her replies became dry.

The energy wasn’t there.

The love I remembered wasn’t there anymore.

So one day I asked her directly.

And she finally told me she just wanted to stop everything completely.

At that point I forced myself to let go.

Months later I thought maybe it was finally time to move on and give someone else a chance. I started dating another girl. She’s honestly a good person.

But then suddenly my ex texted me again asking:

“If I came back, would you leave your new girlfriend for me?”

For the first time, I said no.

So I stayed in this new relationship.

But the truth is…

I still don’t think I’m fully healed.

Yesterday I saw my ex again with another new boyfriend, and it honestly killed me inside instantly.

So yeah…

I guess this is just the confession of another heartbroken guy on Reddit who loved someone too deeply and never really learned how to stop. Any of ur experience that would help me ?

Hello , I’m planning to watch a movie today and thought it’d be fun to go with someone instead of solo.

Anyone here actually found the right partner from this group to hangout with and eventually turn into something long term??

Just curious how everyones experience has been so far did it stay casual or become something real over time..?

Im 25 and married, hubs living in Aussie and looking for a sugar daddy for some financial support 😚 preferably in Gampaha, Kadawatha, Kiribathgoda… anyone!?

M 29 CMB here

settled and thankfully sorted now looking for some fun Times with a sugar baby and she will be taken care of well if your Lankan lets connect or a cuck who wants his wife or gf to cheat on you any body type or skin tone or age

I love to chat with our generation thinking

“50s, married, independent, and planning a week away solo. Looking for an easygoing companion to explore, unwind, and enjoy the trip together.”

Have some extra Gs and some time to spend with. Sugar baby and will take care of all the needs and provide well if your Lankan and interested let’s connect any body type or skin tone or age

Hey there, 47 YO guy from the UK, in colombo for the night and bored. Any Females out there want to grab a coffee and watch a movie?