My workplace sexual harassment complaint was substantiated, but the person was only suspended. I have to work with him again. He's my OM
I honestly don’t know where to go from here.
A few weeks ago, I filed a formal sexual harassment complaint against one of my leaders at work. It took me a long time to come forward because I kept convincing myself that maybe I was overthinking things or that if I just communicated my boundaries, everything would go back to being professional.
I eventually reported him after repeated incidents where he asked me to go out for drinks, suggested renting a hotel near our office, continued trying to have private interactions with me after I had already told him I was uncomfortable, and sent messages that he later unsent. I documented everything I could remember, but because some messages were unsent and most interactions happened verbally, there wasn’t much physical evidence.
The investigation has now concluded. HR informed me that because of insufficient evidence, they could not conclude sexual harassment to the extent that would justify termination. Instead, he received a suspension.
Starting tomorrow, I have to work with him again.
I feel defeated. I feel like I wasn’t heard. I understand that investigations require evidence, but it’s heartbreaking to know that something can happen repeatedly and still be difficult to prove.
I’ve been experiencing anxiety, trouble sleeping, and it’s already affecting my work performance. I even requested accommodations because of the impact this has had on my mental health.
I’m now questioning whether I should resign, file a complaint with a government agency, consult a lawyer, or simply try to move on. Part of me is angry at the company. Another part of me is exhausted and just wants peace.
I cant lose my job now because im the breadwinner of my family. I cant find similar jobs that has the same or higher pay that what i have right now.
Has anyone here been in a similar situation?
If you were in my position, what would you do next? Would you stay? Would you escalate the matter outside the company?
I’m genuinely looking for advice because I feel completely lost right now.