u/Silver_Cod8343

I’m 20M and currently around 48–50 kg. About a year and a half ago, I was around 65 kg, but then something happened in my life that really affected me. I went through a pretty rough period went into depression, had hospital visits, lost friends, and lost a lot of weight along the way.

I’ve finally moved on from that part of my life, and now I genuinely want to work on myself and get my life back on track.

The problem is that I’m really scared to go to the gym.

I’m already tired of people constantly telling me, “You’re too skinny, gain some weight,” etc. I live in a boys’ hostel, and even when I mention wanting to start going to the gym, some guys laugh and make jokes about it. It makes me worry that if I actually start going, people at the gym will also judge me or laugh at me because of how skinny I am.

I know I probably shouldn’t care what other people think, but after everything that happened, I’ve become pretty insecure about this.

I don’t want to impress anyone or prove anything to anyone. I just want to become stronger, healthier, and feel better about myself.

For anyone who started going to the gym while being very skinny or insecure: How did you get the courage to start? And what helped you stay consistent when you felt like people were judging you?

I honestly just need some encouragement and a push to take that first step.

Hi everyone

I’m a 3rd-year BCA Cybersecurity student from India, and I’m looking for some honest advice about whether I’m approaching cybersecurity the right way.

In my 2nd year, a few of my friends and I started trying to learn cybersecurity by building projects. They’re still doing projects and learning because they have a good understanding of the basics.

I’m taking a different approach because I realized that my fundamentals weren’t strong enough. Instead of jumping straight into projects, I made a roadmap for myself based on what I already know, what I’ve studied in college, and how much time I realistically have each week/month alongside college and other responsibilities.

I’ve finished Linux basics, and I’m currently studying networking. My plan is to strengthen my fundamentals first and then move toward more practical cybersecurity topics and projects.

After college, I’m also planning to do a 6-month cybersecurity course before applying for jobs.

The problem is that I keep feeling like I’m falling behind. My friends are already building projects while I’m still working through the basics. I also don’t have much guidance from my college professors because most of the teaching is basically reading from PPTs, so I’ve had to figure out a lot of this on my own.

During my 4th semester, I tried a lot of different courses and videos but eventually realized that constantly jumping between resources wasn’t helping me. That’s one reason I made this roadmap based on my own pace, learning style, college workload, and what I actually need to learn.

So I wanted to ask people who are already working in cybersecurity

Am I doing this the right way by focusing on fundamentals first, or am I overthinking things and falling behind by not doing projects yet?

I’d really appreciate honest advice. If there’s something wrong with my approach or something I should change, I’d rather know now than realize it later.

Has anyone else been in situation like this if had been how did you work things out??

Thanks to anyone who takes the time to read this and give advice.

20M looking for a geniune frndship or some kind of frndship even for 3 4 months atleast as long u can stay and chat atleast once every 2 days or daily on discord.