u/Single_Bat_4572

Today my dad told my mom that it was good they disciplined us by beating us “look how well-mannered they turned out; otherwise we couldn’t show our faces in society if they’d been unsuccessful.” I can’t believe they used that to justify beating me and my sibling. It still hurts; I haven’t recovered from the childhood trauma. I can’t see them as normal parents after the verbal abuse: telling me to die, saying they wished I’d never been born, threatening to beat me to death and feed me to dogs. How can anyone call that normal?

My parents have always been emotionally toxic. When I did poorly in school and was bullied, they told me they were ashamed of me and even said they wished I hadn’t been born. They dismissed my reports of bullying and told me to “grow up.” They constantly compared me to my older brother, praising him while putting me down my dad once told his friend in front of me that the older child was wonderful and my younger one OMG & laughed about me in front of others. When I told him why did you say that in front of all he said you think it’s a lie? You are a disappointment it’s your brother because of him I am proud! My mom made everything about what she did for me, reminding me she gave birth to me and took care of me as a baby. Now that I’m pregnant, they suddenly want to visit me every month even though they live far away and I never asked them to come. I value the distance because it gives me peace, and their sudden attention feels confusing maybe guilt, maybe something else I even said what happened why you want to come here every once in a month my mom is like why? We can’t? We care for you! I was like yeah sure.

I'm 22 weeks pregnant after struggling with PCOS and trying for two years I'm over the moon it finally happened. But my MIL straight-up asked if the doctor had ever hinted (even casually) whether it's a boy or girl. I was furious and snapped back that doctors don't do that it's illegal anyway and it doesn't matter to us if it's a boy or girl. She quickly brushed it off like "yeah, it shouldn't be an issue." I don't get this outdated Indian obsession with wanting a boy. Is it just me, or has anyone else dealt with this mentality?

6 years ago, my ex and I dated for two years. He was extremely introverted way more than me and never showed any intimacy, not even a cheek kiss. I respected that and never pushed him; he'd only hold my hand once or twice. He was my best friend's close buddy. When I moved cities for college, we tried long-distance.

Out of nowhere, he texted: "I have to break up. My mom doesn't approve of you." Just that, plus a "bye." I was shocked what kind of breakup is that? I called; he didn't pick up and blocked me everywhere. I figured the mom excuse was BS.

My best friend (his friend too) asked about it. He said my ex claimed I was "too dominating and wanted physical intimacy he couldn't give." I was like, wow, whatever I didn't care.

Fast-forward six years: We bumped into each other. Turns out, he's married to the "friend" he mentioned back then. He confessed to my friend that he feels bad he was cheating on me with her the whole time, wanted to leave for her, but felt guilty about hurting me. What the actual hell? I told my friend why is he telling you all this now after 6 long years i never asked for explanation because I already knew this mom reason to breakup with me is BS. My friend said he wanted to improve his karma he said that’s why I was like WHAT???