u/SirRemarkable8564

Hi everyone,

I'm planning to switch jobs and wanted some advice on salary expectations and interview preparation.

Background:

4 years of total IT experience

2 years of ServiceNow development experience

Current CTC: 4 LPA

Certified System Administrator (CSA)

Planning to complete CAD in the next 1–2 months

I work on ServiceNow development and support, mainly in ITSM, with experience in scripting, flows, client scripts, business rules, and day-to-day development activities.

A few questions:

Considering my profile, what CTC should I realistically target while switching?

How much hike do companies usually offer for someone in my situation?

What topics are most commonly asked in ServiceNow developer interviews for 2 YOE?

Are there any resources, mock interviews, or preparation strategies you'd recommend?

I'm based in India. Any advice or recent interview experiences would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks!

28M soon to be married to my girlfriend (28F) and I need some honest advice.

I love her and want to marry her, but I am struggling with my feelings about her family and I’m trying to understand whether this is something manageable or a warning sign.

My father passed away last year and currently it is mostly me and my mother. We are financially comfortable and we are bearing the marriage expenses ourselves. We have not asked for dowry or anything.

My girlfriend comes from a lower middle class family from a village. She has 3 sisters and a younger brother. She is the second sibling and her elder sister is married.

The issue is not exactly money but a mix of financial expectations and social mismatch.

I honestly don’t enjoy interacting with her family. I feel the vibes and mindset don’t match mine. I especially don’t connect with her jija — I find him prideful and I don’t enjoy his jokes or attitude.

There have also been situations that made me uncomfortable:

Her brother and sister asking her to buy phones

Expectation of clothes/gifts on occasions

She bought a bike for her brother

When family visits the city, I usually end up picking/dropping them and doing sightseeing and arrangements

I have sometimes financially supported her as well

Her jija wanted to meet me, and I had to take leave from office and travel to the village

I want to be fair here — they have not demanded dowry or marriage money. But I worry whether I am seeing early signs of long-term expectations.

My confusion is this:

I genuinely love my girlfriend, but I am worried about whether I will grow resentful toward her family and whether these expectations could increase after marriage.

For people who married into families with different social/financial backgrounds — how did you handle it? Did boundaries solve it, or did it become a long-term issue?

Please be honest.