u/Sir_Dibbles12

https://www.reddit.com/r/BPDPartners/comments/1unkh79/am_i_being_manipulated/

So I have gotten more info on this situation and would really appreciate more advice just another point of view. I also wanted to state that all the advice and comments really helped already, I'll be seeing my therapist Thursday (9th) and I plan on explaining this to them and likely creating a boundary.

New info - She said she posts pics of herself, likes the messages and sexts in private dms then drops them after to feel male validation. She understands it may not be healthy and makes her feel easy too, but doesn't want to stop as it feels good to her.

She said this is different with me as she wants to actually talk to me and can feel like a person. She also sends me more explicit things and such. She's also been getting a lot more possessive and jealous over things I do.

This honestly came as a big shock as she's been incredibly shy and it took a very long time to be comfortable with me and as I said before has only done incredibly minor things for validation during her episodes.

It definitely feels like I'm at least being used though if anything I want to help her find a more healthy way to feel validated. As before, any advice, help or anything would be greatly appreciated as I just feel like I'm being used.

Hello there, I do apologize for the subject matter and I do apologize if this is the wrong place for this, I'm just very unsure and need advice.

So for context, my ex who has BPD(23F) and I (23M) are still very very close friends even after a breakup 1 month ago. During our relationship and before, we engaged in very consensual and careful sexting. Shortly after our relationship, after having time and space somewhat apart, we got back into it, way more intimately and passionate then before, moving past our old boundaries, getting more and more confident and comfortable with each other too,

However, very recently she's said she goes to others to sext, though insists they aren't friends, and what we have is more special and better, and plans to do more with me too.

She's done something somewhat similar in the past (where she'd like or say small things to make me jealous) when going through episodes but we usually got through them together without issue.

I'm somewhat confused and don't know what to feel. In the years I've known her, this doesn't seem like something she'd do and she's very insistent on being jealous of me with others and acts very possessive over me.

It feels like I'm kinda being manipulated despite the fact we're just friends as we're very open on how we feel for each other. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Hello there, I do apologize for the subject matter and I do apologize if this is the wrong place for this, I'm just very unsure and need advice.

So for context, my ex who has BPD(23F) and I (23M) are still very very close friends even after a breakup 1 month ago. During our relationship and before, we engaged in very consensual and careful sexting. Shortly after our relationship, after having time and space somewhat apart, we got back into it, way more intimately and passionate then before, moving past our old boundaries, getting more and more confident and comfortable with each other too,

However, very recently she's said she goes to others to sext, though insists they aren't friends, and what we have is more special and better, and plans to do more with me too.

She's done something somewhat similar in the past (where she'd like or say small things to make me jealous) when going through episodes but we usually got through them together without issue.

I'm somewhat confused and don't know what to feel. In the years I've known her, this doesn't seem like something she'd do and she's very insistent on being jealous of me with others and acts very possessive over me.

It feels like I'm kinda being manipulated despite the fact we're just friends as we're very open on how we feel for each other. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

So myself (23M) and my ex/best and closest friend with BPD (23F) have been incredibly close with each other. Even after our breakup a month ago we managed to maintain a very close friendship.

During our relationship (and before when we were just friends) we engaged in a very consensual habit of sexting and such and after giving each other space and such after our breakup we've reengaged doing it with each other. She had days were she'd go through episodes during this and we'd always have worked it out.

However, very recently, within the past few days, I've learnt that she also apparently does this with others, not friends in her words and less passionate and such, but still engages with others even to a lesser extent.

Now we aren't in a relationship anymore, so she's free to do that, but she was very open about wanting to just me and we've talked about wanting just each other in the past in this way. To be honest she's been VERY possessive of me and can get jealous very easily. Especially when she's going through episodes. So I just feel like somethings up or I'm being manipulated or something.

I do not think ill of her or anything, and I somewhat similar things have happened in the past (never to this extent, but she'd purposely like someone's posts or such to get me jealous).

I apologize for the more mature nature of this post, I'm just very unsure on what's going on and would appreciate any advice if possible

So myself (23M) and my ex/best and closest friend with BPD (23F) have been incredibly close with each other. Even after our breakup a month ago we managed to maintain a very close friendship.

During our relationship (and before when we were just friends) we engaged in a very consensual habit of sexting and such and after giving each other space and such after our breakup we've reengaged doing it with each other. She had days were she'd go through episodes during this and we'd always have worked it out.

However, very recently, within the past few days, I've learnt that she also apparently does this with others, not friends in her words and less passionate and such, but still engages with others even to a lesser extent.

Now we aren't in a relationship anymore, so she's free to do that, but she was very open about wanting to just me and we've talked about wanting just each other in the past in this way. To be honest she's been VERY possessive of me and can get jealous very easily. Especially when she's going through episodes. So I just feel like somethings up or I'm being manipulated or something.

I do not think ill of her or anything, and I somewhat similar things have happened in the past (never to this extent, but she'd purposely like someone's posts or such to get me jealous).

I apologize for the more mature nature of this post, I'm just very unsure on what's going on and would appreciate any advice if possible

It's been about a week since my now ex with BPD broke up with me. For context, we've been best friends for years at this point, and have tried relationships in the past (the two times lasted less than 2 weeks) though this was a very long time ago. However, we recently got together for 5 months and to say it was strong is an understatement, we spoke about things, did things with each other we never had done with others. There was so much talk about the future and hell she was even coming out of her comfort zone more and more.

Now, she dumped me, she had an episode, one day everything was fine, the next, completely different. We'd worked through so many episodes together and she happily goes to therapy. that I thought it could've been different and we'd get through it. She currently says she wants to remain close friends, but she's almost like a different person and I feel horrible for even thinking that.

I'm not spiraling but not doing good, I'd really appreciate advice if possible, it's hard to tell now whether she loved me in the first place or if anything was real despite what she says.

My ex and I have recently gone through a breakup and I'd really like some advice or anything.

My ex and I have have been together and broke up 3 times, the first two were less than a month before the breakup (differencing reasons) and now this last, after 5 months of being at our strongest.

She is very open about her BPD and due to knowing her for years I've started to notice some very clear signs of her going through episodes, we've been through so many together where she says I helped her a lot too.

However, this last breakup was caused by her believing (while going through and still going through and episode) she only likes women.

I want to fully support her with this regardless of the breakup and what we had, but this exact situation (minus the breakup) has happened before, where she thought she was lesbian, only to go to pansexual later and we continued in our relationship.

I do think I'm being too hopeful in hoping she comes back, but would anyone happen to have any advice or such regarding this situation?