u/Slide4Ukraine

I cum pretty quickly. Been looking for fixes for months to last a bit longer. Everywhere I read says do Kegels, so I am starting to do kegels and edging for 20-30 minutes before ejaculating (masturbating). My question is, how do kegels improve PE? Are you supposed to be doing a kegel WHILE your penetrating, or is it only right before/at the point of no return? Are you strengthening with kegels so you can prevent yourself from cumming once you reach that point or is it to prevent you from feeling like you're getting to that point? Trying to research it but nobody really gives definitive answers, just "do kegels".

Also working on breathwork, they say focus on 6seconds in, 6seconds out... does tis really work? is this to activate ur Parasympathetic NS to prevent you from getting too excited?

Sorry alot of questions here. Thanks for reading/answering (if you do)

I cum pretty quickly. Been looking for fixes for months to last a bit longer. Everywhere I read says do Kegels, so I am starting to do kegels and edging for 20-30 minutes before ejaculating (masturbating). My question is, how do kegels improve PE? Are you supposed to be doing a kegel WHILE your penetrating, or is it only right before/at the point of no return? Are you strengthening with kegels so you can prevent yourself from cumming once you reach that point or is it to prevent you from feeling like you're getting to that point? Trying to research it but nobody really gives definitive answers, just "do kegels".

Also working on breathwork, they say focus on 6seconds in, 6seconds out... does tis really work? is this to activate ur Parasympathetic NS to prevent you from getting too excited?

Sorry alot of questions here. Thanks for reading/answering (if you do)

Thank you for all the responses. I posted this to get clarity / additional perspective and I got it. Appreciate you all 🫂

Have a girlcoming over in 1.45 hours. We're going to eat and 99% have sex. I havent' had sex in over a month because I've been quite busy. Don't want to nut too fast. I'm focusing more on staying calm and deep breath work but idk if its going to be enough. Should I pre-masturbate rn? or is it too late?

Seeing a girl next week, not sure which day specifically but she says she wants to come over, maybe have dinner. We've had sex many times before, so probably going to end in sex. I haven't had sex in a little while so I might cum fast as hell. Any advice on what I should do so I dont cum fast? I've read a few places to masturbate 1-2 hours beforehand but anything I should do days in advance to prepare for this? Sorry if this comes off as crazy/inexperienced lol. She's not into oral, or doggystyle and claims to be submissive so trying to prepare beforehand. Considering going to a sex shop and getting handcuffs/blindfolds just as an option to make it fun

I'll include a TL;DR because I kind of want to provide all the context of my situation.

27M, Did Pre-Med in undergrad. Didnt know how the fk to study, and spent all my time working out so needless to say my grades tanked. Decided to take a few years to improve my application and improve my grades. Got rejected to almost all post-bacc and SMP programs I applied to, until last year. I decided if I get accepted, I will take it serious, no more fucking around and putting gym before studies. Moved, Did an SMP program ($-80K) and although I did semi-decent (3.3 almost 3.4), I still feel like I have no shot at med school. Kinda feeling defeated. While I was here i kinda dicked around. my first time really living on my own, so i went crazy with hookups, school kind of took the backburner a bit, but I still was able to focus alot better than undergrad. I think I thought I was mature enough to handle it but I fumbled again. I graduated a few days ago, and I felt like shit seeing alot of my peers get accepted to medical schools early on, while I'm in the same place I was when I was basically 18-22. Idk wtf to do at this point. I feel defeated. Im in debt, no friends, no kids, no relationship, alone in a shitty apartment on my own. I am stuck. I dont know what i want to do with my life if not medicine, never really considered it. Ran through my savings with these hookups and taking girls out constantly, while paying for food/supplements for working out, and rent and all the misc expenses that come with it. I was very careless financially, as I had my parents to fall back on always. The more I write this, the more I realize I think I know the answer, and idk if I really need advice. I think I just needed to vent.

TL;DR may have fucked my life up. Did poorly in undergrad, got accepted to an Masters program which put me $80k more in debt, still unsure about chances to medical school. Ran through my life savings chasing women, now I am feeling stuck and not sure what to do. I am scared

26M, 550 test level, sleep 7-8 hours a night. Haven’t watched porn in over a year. I notice I just don’t get aroused anymore. I am attracted to women, I enjoy looking at them in person and swiping through instagram. I can appreciate an attractive woman, but I just don’t get aroused at all. I rarely ever get random erections like I used to. The only time I get feral for sex and have a crazy feeling to go get sex is when i’m in a drought of about 2-3 weeks of no sex/ejaculation. Is this normal? I chalked it up to just stress but idrk. I went through a phase of just having sex constantly (3 partners) but that was months ago. I think it may have killed my sex drive entirely. This girl invited me over this friday and i’m kinda just eh about it. Has anyone ever experienced this or know what could be going on?

Pretty active, workout 3/4 times a week for past 12 years. Eat pretty clean, ground beef 93/7 or 90/10 for the most part (which I know is bad because of atherosclerosis but fk it)

could seeing women constantly on instagram be killing my sex drive or motivation to seek women?