AIO by giving my boss an ultimatum
My coworker (47M)" Scott" and I are both managers at the same company. He’s known for being pretty useless and is generally disliked by most of the staff. That’s not the reason I’m considering giving my VP of Operations an ultimatum even though others have brought this up multiple times.
"Scott" told me today that he’s been secretly dating one of our floor workers (24F) for the last 5 months. She’s newer to the team and only works part time. She’s honestly an amazing young woman with her whole life ahead of her. She already has a great career right out of school and mostly just works with us part time for fun and extra income ( We are a niche retailer).
The issue isn’t just that he’s her superior. It’s also that, in my opinion, he’s fundamentally a loser. He lives with his parents after years of alcoholism and has never really gotten his life together. Hes also displayed temper issues and is constantly discussing his past about dating young woman he managed in restaurants.
I’m considering going to my boss and basically saying it’s either Scott or me. I don’t really care how they handle it on paper, but I can’t keep working with him after hearing this.
The problem is that we don’t technically have a policy against this kind of relationship and if I left the company right now they would struggle (not because I think highly of myself but because I'm leading a rollout on a new system). Genuinely I love my job and most of my coworkers and I are close, it be very hard to leave. Ive never provided an ultimatum before and think most times they are bad ideas, however, I don’t think I can work another day alongside a manager I view as both predatory and incompetent. Personally I have had this siduation happen to me (Have a manager 20 years older interested in me) and it was traumatizing after I reflected on it with my frontal lobe developed.
AIOR for giving my boss that ultimatum?