u/Slutty_Potat0

We've been married for a long time. Long story but I recently talked to my wife about my submissive fantasies and she is trying to understand.

She has been reading about it online. She showed me what she is reading and asked me if it's a good one but I have no idea.

I'm hoping some dommes out there can point me in the right direction of online resources for someone trying to start.

Even better, if you are a woman who has a sub husband and learned to be a domme for him. What was helpful to you in your journey?

I went to the YMCA and studied up to Level 3 Bahasa Malaysia. The classes were good but we didn't practice speaking much. I spent some time studying at home but without the practice, it's in one ear and out the other.

I'm a Westerner living in Malaysia long term. I want to be better at Malay but I so rarely need to use it in day to day life. I feel like living in KL, you can get by with just English. Outside of KL, it depends.

Any tips for how I can practice my Malay more?

I met a dominant woman IRL. She's wonderful. We chatted online and then met for lunch on Monday. She's teasing me about meeting again on Friday.

She has suggested a few times that I should buy her some fairly small things, lingerie, a manicure etc. I've resisted so far.

I don't want our dynamic to be based on me buying her things. I really dislike her asking me to buy her specific things.

As a sub, I'm happy to buy her gifts of my own choosing, at the right time.

I feel like her asking me to buy her these things cheapens her, like I can buy her time for the price of a manicure.

I sent her a long message telling her what I just said. She accepted it but I get the feeling she's not happy with it.

Am I wrong? Should I just buy her the stuff she wants?