AIO? My husband called me the c word without being provoked.
To get a fair assessment, I will start by saying my husband has never called me a c**t until today. We were discussing what we should go do.
I walked in the kitchen and saw his belt on the counter. I picked it up and yelled towards the living room, “I am putting your belt away upstairs.”
He said under his breath, “It was fine where it was.” I responded by asking what he said. He said. “I didn’t say anything.” To which I responded, I thought you I heard you say it was fine there. He yells, I did.
This is where it goes off the rails. Lately he has been saying a lot of rude things under his breath. If I ask him what he said, he gets annoyed. I have told him, if he didn’t want me to hear it, don’t say it out loud.
I asked if he wanted to go for a hike or to grab something to eat and sit by the water. He said he would prefer eating by the water. I then said what do you want to eat? It makes a difference where we find water based on food. He says, obviously. I reply to his second snarky comment in about a 2 minute timeframe, what’s the issue?
He storms out of the living room to go outside. On his way out the door he says, “You are a c***.”
I am flabbergasted! I genuinely ask, since he has never said such a thing, “did you just call me a c***?” He says, “Yes.”
I asked him what I did that he is calling me that. This is where he begins gaslighting. He says, I didn’t call you that. I was saying it to myself.
I respond, “If you weren’t calling me that, why did you say YOU are a C?” He proceeds to say that he was just saying it to nobody because he was upset I moved his belt. Then it becomes he said it but there was zero malice behind his use of the word. Then he says he doesn’t even know what the word actually means.
By this point, I tell him I am not engaging any longer. I grab the dog and go for a walk to cool off.
I am home now and he is still saying I am overreacting since he was angry when he said it. He said he loves me more than anything.
Am I overreacting for standing my ground that he never has a valid reason to call me a cu**?