u/Snailio_22

Alright so, some context. I'm 19 and going to college in the fall. I'm soon to take my driver's test and earn my license. I have a job near my house that I can consistently walk to if I have to. I have a boyfriend that I've been with for over a year, but we were friends for a year already before that. I have decent savings, and I recently got an IUD.

Now. My boyfriend and I are planning on moving in together during college, and I'm still not quite sure how I'm going to hide it from my grandparents, who I live with. I can't just tell them, because I fear getting kicked out of the house with no car and no idea of where to live, other than my boyfriend's house. So I'm trying to get prepared in case I actually do get kicked out of here. What else would I need? I don't really WANT a car, since that'll eat up my savings. But if I get kicked out I'll need one desperately. And I almost have everything ready for college, so that's covered.

I can't exactly tell my grandmother about this, because in the past anything I said to her has been used against me to humiliate me in front of the family. And vice versa with other family members. I love my boyfriend, and want to have a life with him. He makes me happy, and he's someone who would never think to hurt me in any way. My grandmother knows that. I'm still not allowed to sleep over at his house, though. Last time I bickered with her about it, it was all "you're too young to sleep together! You're not married!" Blah. Eventually I said "I just want to. This is something I want, because he makes me happy." And, in the moment she relented and said she didn't care, but later as I was headed out the door to go see him she gave me a "see you later!" Obviously I said no I wasn't, and she just said "yes you will!" And I was pissed. This isn't the first time she's done this. She just makes me feel small and full of shame for things that make me happy. What do I do to prepare for getting kicked out?

Hi! I need advice on something that happened a while ago where I had a party with at least 7 of my friends. My boyfriend was also there and has autism and needed some alone time for a bit. I accompanied him to my dock for not even 10 minutes before we walked back to join the rest of the party. I was yelled at by my mom in front of all my friends for this. We went to join the table of friends, where everyone was silent except for my best friend (at the time). He kept saying something along the lines of, "wow you guys just HAD to have anal sex." And "so you guys took forever having anal sex out there." And "did you guys go have anal sex instead of hanging out with us?" And variations of this. Now. I know for a fact he did this to punish us in this situation. I know for a fact he did this to humiliate us. We've never discussed our sex life with him. We've never made jokes about that kind of stuff to him, or around him. He did this for AN HOUR. UNTIL HIS RIDE CAME. He was clearly mad that we took time to spend together at MY party, and kept asking my boyfriend and I about sex and sex toys and vulgar things. Mind you, he had a crush on my boyfriend before we got together. When he confessed and my boyfriend lightly let him down and rejected him, he began bullying my boyfriend every time he was around. Making mean comments, and constantly making my boyfriend the butt of the joke. It was a lot like hazing, but with how often it occured, it was straight up bullying. Please help. Would the incident at the party be considered sexual harassment?