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Which layout do you prefer for above the credenza?
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Which layout do you prefer for above the credenza?

This is just a mockup before I decide what I actually want to invest in. I have an art piece from a friend that I’ve been saving up for, but I’m having a hard time deciding which option would work better in the space.

For context, I live in a small studio apartment, so I’m trying to be mindful of not making the room feel too visually busy. The wall directly across from this one is a full bookshelf wall, Billy Bookcase from IKEA, if that gives a better sense of the overall room and how much is already going on visually.

Which option do you prefer?

u/SnooPickles3762 — 10 days ago
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I’ve been in SLAA for 2 years, withdrew from a qualifier, went no contact, finished the steps, have since been in therapy, had my first sober healthy relationship, built a good life with lots of supports and tools. And I’m still not over my qualifier.
She was my best friend. We talked every day. She told me I was the only one who understood her. It was platonic though complicated, enmeshed, intimate, codependent relationship. Then she abruptly cut contact, saying she would be back. She never came back.

Last year we had one unexpected run-in, met up once, I made an amends, hugged and seemingly “made up” and since then nothing. I guess I had the expectation (I know, not the point of an amends) she would want to foster some type of relationship with me because of the experience and connection we shared.

If I’m being rigorously honest, I’ve spent a year hoping I run into her again and acting out (privately) in ways I’m not proud of. The urges have significantly dampened, especially after we met in person last year I had a sense of closure. But now, I don’t understand why almost a year after seeing her in person the withdrawal feels like it’s back after it went away for over 6 months. Or wasn’t this strong.

I just miss my friend. And I can’t tell the difference anymore between grief and the addiction talking.

Has anyone been here? How did you get through it? Why does this feel like latent withdrawal? What is going on?

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