u/SnortDonutSprinkles

Planeé un viaje con varios amigos y pagamos cada uno unos 100€ para un apartamento, pero ha habido una pelea con una de ellos que ha acabado con la amistad completamente. En un principio le dijimos que no podemos prohibirle que venga porque ha pagado y que intentaríamos mantenernos lo más cordiales posible, pero su trato hacia nosotros no es especialmente bueno así que es tentador bloquearla en WhatsApp y simplemente no dejarla ir.

Podría denunciar para conseguir el dinero de vuelta?

Recientemente ha habido una pelea en mi grupo de amigos tras un tiempo bastante distanciados que ha acabado con la ruptura de muchas de mis amistades. Aunque sigo manteniendo buenos rollos con alguno, sobre todo mi novia y un amigo, ahora bien, queremos ampliar nuestra vida social, sobre todo porque la ruptura nos ha dejado bastante desilusionados y desesperados.

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Entiendo que siendo tres es más fácil hacer amigos que cuando uno está solo contra el mundo, pero ¿cómo y dónde los hacemos? Somos universitarios de Madrid pero no queremos esperar a que empiece el curso para intentar volver a tener más vida social. No somos especialmente afines a bares, fiestas, etc. Nuestro ocio se centra más en hablar, ver películas y jugar a juegos de mesa, además de que somos bastante tímidos.

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¿Algún consejo? Sé que se suele recomendar apuntarse a alguna actividad, un deporte, algo, pero igual gastarnos dinero de forma habitual es complicado.

I'm in my first year of college and I'm out to only a couple of very close friends I've made there. One of them recently reached out to me to apologize as he, at some point, told his girlfriend and parents (whom I have met numerous times) I'm trans. His apology was very thorough and it really felt like he truly meant it, he's been a great source of support for me and I truly value him as a friend. I told him it was fine, that I understand he regrets it and that he didn't out me to people I'm actually close to, I assured him it wasn't really a big deal because I know he's not going to do it again.

The thing is, even though I tried to downplay it as much as I could, I am hurt. I don't know how I can deal with my feelings towards this situation. I know he'd have no issue talking it through if it made me feel better but I have no clue what to say. It's not that he broke my trust, that's not really the problem, it's that I really didn't want anyone else to know. I wanted to choose if I came out to them, or at least do it on my own terms.

How do I deal with this? Am I better off letting it go? Will talking with him change anything at all? I understand he can't undo it, so maybe it's better to not bring it up?

Basically what the title says, I had sex for the first time not too long ago and my girlfriend and I have been experimenting and trying out everything we can think of to figure out what we like and don't like. I don't know if I was tired or what we were doing was too much for me, but I started to feel detached from what was happening and eventually I told her I needed to stop. I think I got way too dysphoric, but I don't quite know why.

We got dressed and hugged, she tried to comfort me but everytime she spoke I thought she was misgendering me (not english, but a gendered language). I ended up asking if she was actually misgendering me, and she definitely wasn't, and actually got pretty worried, I 100% believe her, that's not the issue at all.

Even though we talked it out and shared our feelings afterwards and this morning as well, I can't get it out of my head. I feel horrible. I don't know what else to do to feel better, I feel like being trans is going to fuck up my relationship.

I suppose someone out there has gone through similar stuff as me, and it would be pretty great if I could get any advice or guidance on what to do moving forward, what can I do to stop this from happening again? Is this going to be an issue forever? What do I tell my girlfriend?