PA and Financial Infidelity
Hi, I’m not new to this forum but have only commented a little and read posts every now and then. Long post.
There is one thing I can’t figure out and was hoping others know. We have discussed his PA, ONS (in another city) to triggers.
Financial infidelity: He has spent probably 10k to 15k over last 5 years. I do not believe him on what he has spent and received via cash app, Venmo etc. I’m talking $500 to $1000 spent in one day. He says 30 videos to multiple photos or asks for specific videos. I have his location; he is home every night. Some of these women have an onlyfans I found. 2 women he knew and they confirmed only photos and fantasies and he paid them to talk to him (why he couldn’t come to me I don’t know).
Is what he saying true or is he still hiding the extent of it? Onlyfans is like a $10 subscription. He was on a hookup website adultfriendfinder. He said he found these women on Snapchat mainly. So maybe it is escorts? Idk. Thoughts?
We are going to see a CSAT couples therapist who specializes in infidelity and betrayal. I’m wondering if that’s a safer space because he gets an entire hour by himself to talk to the CSAT. They do a 4 parts of an initial intake which I’m so happy about. We will see if he does the work (more than downloading a porn blocker app as he can delete and readd) as this is a last Hail Mary for me. I’m not spending even another 6 months of him not actually doing something about his PA.