AITAH for suspecting my friend of jealousy
ERM HAI so i’m really sad about this and it’s been weighing on me for a really long time and i have nobody else to talk about this to. my whole life i’ve grown up chopped and i’ve turned into like an alt attractive person and i’ve grown a pretty decent following on tiktok and instagram and it feels like my friend hates me for that. here r my reasons why.
one- she always downplays whatever i say and she honestly doesn’t care at all about me. i came to her party and i was like HAPPY BIRTHDAAAAAYYYYYYY and the crowd went MILD!!!!! like okay mid off i guess and she didn’t even appreciate the gift i gave her and it was $50+ and i work hard for my money
she’s really uptight about money but when it comes to ME paying for things she’s a free spender. she always complains she’s BROKE but when i order something for myself she always orders something and now EXPECTS me to pay for it. she didn’t even appreciate the thing i bought for her and i asked for the money back because like i paid for you SO YOU COULD ENJOY THE SNACK WITH ME? $10 is still a lot of money in this economy ESPECIALLY TO A HIGHSCHOOL GIRL? if you’re not gonna enjoy it and call the snack MID i want my money back… it’s not even about the money even though i work super hard for it. i just feel sad that she doesn’t appreciate the things i do for her but for the friends that don’t do anything she treats them so nicely compared to me. other friends have noticed that she’s so mean to me and i’m honestly trying to not build animosity because she’s still my friend.
three- she always throws me aside when somebody else she likes better comes into the picture. like how do i even explain… she’ll throw me aside for the guy friend THAT I INTRODUCED TO HER!!!! me and the guy are COMPLETELY platonic even though he had feelings for me way back in the first semester and for a pretty decent amount of time. i never liked him romantically because no that’s WEIRD and we’re still friends today! and she only talks about her ex that she just can’t let go of. i’ve told her to heal but it’s all she can talk about. there’s rarely a time i get to talk about myself. i mean I AM INTROVERTED but when it comes to being a shoulder to cry on all the time i’m a bit tired. i have things of my own that i worry about. and she only uses me for rides. it feels like she hates me but can’t let me go for money reasons. she always asks me for money and she’ll treat me SO NICELY before she asks me to buy something for her and then she’ll be so rude if i say NO. my money is my money and she never pays for like ANYTHING? if i’m well off and she’s not it feels like she feels allowed to take things from me because i have a j\*b and she doesn’t and I WORK FOR MY OWN MONEY?
four- she only tags me in her posts because i have a really nice following and she gets likes from being on my page. i don’t mind sharing my clout because it’s not much and i love my friends but it feels like she’s using me for it. and it feels like she shadow bans my account because she wants to grow her own following too. i give her tips on how to grow it, and she beats me down. she explicitly said that she LOVES how i have a large following so she can collaborate her own posts on my own account. i love sharing with my friends because i’m well off and ive worked MY BUTT OFF for this following. i love fashion and i love sharing my wealth and “fame” with my friends. but it feels awful because i’m just simply a middle class girl.
there’s so many things but these are just on the surface. it hurts to say this about my friend that i made pretty early when i just freshly transferred. she didn’t really introduce me to my whole friend group, because it’s mostly the other way around. i built my whole friend group by myself and i’ve brought her around with me. but it feels like if she says something bad about me she’ll throw me under the bus and blame it on me being PRISSY AND SNOBBY. i’ve grown up HUMBLE BECAUSE I WAS CHOPPED AF BEFORE!!!!