u/Sorry_naughtsorry

I am moving to an unfurnished bachelor flat and would like to buy a bed. I will be staying in the Bulwer/Berea area close to Berea Centre. Does anyone know where I can buy an affordable bed close to here? Or maybe a furniture store in town that is not very expensive? My budget is 2-3k for a queen bed. I am new in Durban so not really familiar with places that much as of yet. I’m also looking for a study table/desk but the primary item is a bed. Appreciate any help 🙏🏼.

My mom is obsessed with Indian culture. Think Indian food, Indian traditional wear, Indian music, et cetera. She spends all her free time watching those Indian dramas on DSTV and constantly talks about how beautiful the women are - going as far as (jokingly) saying she wishes she was Indian herself. Her birthday is this month and I’d like to buy her some kind of Indian dress, but I don’t really know where to look. I’m currently based in Durban so I’m kindly asking for recommendations on what to buy and where for a 50+ yo black African.

I’ll be travelling through King Shaka and my flight is at 6am. Boarding will be at 5am meaning I have to arrive at the airport around 4am. I do not drive so will be taking an Uber, my location is about 40 minutes away from the airport. I am a bit concerned though and wanted to ask those with experience how safe it is to travel with Uber at this time? I’m not a frequent flyer so this would be my first time leaving home at this time.

I’m going to start this off by saying I know I’m in the wrong. Throw away and few details have been changed because they are also on here. I posted on one of those subs looking for friends, and it quickly occurred to me that the only people who would message me are of a certain race. I’m not (that race) myself, and have never dated outside of my race. I never disclosed my race on the posts but as we start talking I would then find out that the person messaging me is (this race).

Because of where I’m from, I have this fear that people from (this race) would be discriminatory and racist towards me so I don’t even try to approach or date them. The moment I realise through their name that the person I’m talking to is of (this race) I would just block them and move on, so essentially I blocked everyone who reached out to me. I feel bad and guilty about it because just cause some people from (this race) are racist doesn’t mean they are all racist, so I’m essentially rejecting all these people based on my own fear that they will reject me too and I don’t want to waste my time on something, knowing it’s not going anywhere.

Until now. I’ve just started talking to someone new. We have been getting along so far. The name didn’t immediately sound (race) specific, think biblical names (let’s say Ruth) so it could be anyone really. Anyway, Ruth finally sends me a picture, and I realise that they’re also part of (that race). The issue is I really like Ruth, we have been talking for a while and really getting along.

Somehow Ruth hasn’t asked for my picture though, and I’m scared that I will be rejected the same way that I have been rejecting people based on this one thing. I’m scared because what if she finally sees me and is not attracted to me, not only because of the race this but just cause of how I look? I am quite chubby and Ruth is skinny so though we are getting along in conversations, I’m scared that I will get rejected based on my looks and background, which is exactly what I’ve been doing to others (kind of).

My first instinct was to block Ruth immediately when I realised that they were of that race, but I don’t know for some reason I just continued talking to them and we are still talking till now. I’m just so scared because I seem to be getting attached and this whole thing might blow up in my face. I feel like this is karma and I’m scared that my actions are coming back to bite me in the a… Does this even make sense? I don’t really know.

TL;DR I rejected people because of their background and now I’m afraid I will also be rejected based on the same criteria