u/Specialist-Room8232

Context, I moved in with my bf when I was 22. He has a daughter at the time she was 11 but is now 17. I don’t know how many of you guys play The Sims but let’s just say over all the game itself cost $1k+ with all the expansions and packs that I’ve purchased over the years. Not including how much I paid to have the computer built to play it.

When I first moved in I brought my computer with me and introduced my SD to the sims. She loved the game and over the years would spend all weekend ,when she came over, playing it. It’s a fun game and I was glad I could facilitate a bond through playing it together. We’ve always had the computer in our back room to keep it as a common playing area so I could still play when she wasn’t at our house.

Fast forward 8 years, me and my husband ended up having 2 more kids together and so we moved to a bigger house that no longer had a common area so we could share my computer. Having kids makes you busier and since I rarely played anymore I let her take the computer and have it in her room so she could still play and use it for school.

I went to play it the other day and was completely thrown off by everything she’d done to it. First she put a password on it and so I had to get that from her with severe push back from her about it. But then I’d noticed it was running crazy slow and laggy.

Come to find out she’s been downloading exuberant amounts of mods and other things to the game. One was the wicked whims mods (a sex mod) and a drug/abuse mod. I know she’s 17, but I always expressed how I didn’t like playing the game modded and how not to download anything without my permission. I just feel like she completely disregarded what I said and treated my stuff like it wasn’t important.

I think back to when she was 11 and playing together was almost whimsical and now it’s tarnished by the thought of her playing with those particular mods. I took the computer back to my mom’s house and now she’s mad. Am I wrong for being upset she treated my stuff like this?

Me and my boyfriend have been together 7 years, my SD is 17 and we have two kids together 4yrBoy 1.5yr Girl.

I love my SD but here recently I’ve been facing conflicted feelings about one thing in particular. I came into my SDs life when she was 11, I was 22 and we always laughed about how close in age we are (my boyfriend had her at 15). Therefore we’ve never really had what I’d consider a parental bond but more familial. I know she doesn’t really see me in a maternal way because her mom is still very active but she doesn’t have any maternal grandparents. My boyfriend’s parents are older(late 70’s) so they’re kinda active but not really.

My parents are barely 50 and are very active in all their grandkids lives. My 1.5yr daughter is technically the first granddaughter my parents got out of 7 boys. My dad was over the moon excited and brags a lot about how she’s his first granddaughter. Well my SD overheard him the other day and was pissed.

I get she’s mad because she thinks she holds that title but she’s also only just recently (past year or so) started wanting to do anything with my parents. I’m conflicted because I know what it’s like to be a step child and to be treated as such and wouldn’t never want her to feel not included. But on the same note I want my daughter to feel special too. I grew up the middle, glass, child. I was always overlooked because of my older or younger siblings. And to have something my dad deems “Special” makes me feel proud for once but to have it feel negative at the same time because of my SD.