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Before I start, I want to emphasize I have never written to Reddit for advice. If you have any questions, or feel there’s holes in the story, pls don’t hesitate to ask bc I have a character limit! If I can figure out how to post screenshots of the messages, I will.

So, I (23 F), and my gf (23 F) have been discussing our future and what our dream proposal/wedding would look like. I have always dreamed of a beach proposal with all my friends and family there to celebrate with us. As soon as my girlfriend heard this, she started planning my beach proposal. For background information, I have a huge family and 2 close friends. We (my family) take a vacation together every couple of years, but that’s about the only time we’re all together. This year, my best friend and girlfriend were invited so I start getting suspicions and excited that she might be planning to do it on our family beach trip. Significant others and friends have never been invited before, but I really tried not to get my hopes up.
Now let’s rewind so I can give you the background information of the title. I was offered my dream job while I was working a waitressing job, the downside: the owner of the business and my brother dated 7 years ago, and I didn’t want to accept the job without speaking with him first. My brother assures me that it isn’t an issue, he did not care at all, and he was also excited for me to finally get to pave my career.

Fast forward 2 years, my boss and I have grown so close and to be such good friends. She considers me a partner in the business that was originally only hers and I consider her to be one of my best friends. I’ve never made friends easily, and she is the easiest friend I’ve ever made. Keep in mind, I told my girlfriend I wanted everyone I cared about at my proposal to celebrate with us. I’m extremely nosy as well so, naturally, I ask them both why they stopped talking. They both just said it didn’t work out and they weren’t compatible (my boss was also only 20 at the time of dating my brother, furthering my assumption of them not being serious).

My best friend hasn't been helping my gf like she needed, so she reached out to my sister in law, and my other best friend (my boss) for help. As soon as my SIL heard my friend was helping, she got insecure and started comparing the two of them to which my gf reassured her that my brother and SIL have a family together and there’s no reason even for the comparison. My gf thought the issue was resolved there, it was not. My boss and I take vacations at the same time as we’re the only 2 people who work at the business and it’s just eaiser for us to take vacation at the same time. So she has a beach trip planned with her daughter the same week as my family beach trip. My family’s beach is private, so my girlfriend and boss planned to go to a different beach so my boss could hide and take photos while also being on common ground for everyone.

This immediately sets my SIL off… hopefully pt 2 in comments

Before I start, I want to emphasize I have never written to Reddit for advice. If you have any questions, or feel there’s holes in the story, pls don’t hesitate to ask bc I have a character limit! If I can figure out how to post screenshots of the messages, I will.

So, I (23 F), and my gf (23 F) have been discussing our future and what our dream proposal/wedding would look like. I have always dreamed of a beach proposal with all my friends and family there to celebrate with us. As soon as my girlfriend heard this, she started planning my beach proposal. For background information, I have a huge family and 2 close friends. We (my family) take a vacation together every couple of years, but that’s about the only time we’re all together. This year, my best friend and girlfriend were invited so I start getting suspicions and excited that she might be planning to do it on our family beach trip. Significant others and friends have never been invited before, but I really tried not to get my hopes up.
Now let’s rewind so I can give you the background information of the title. I was offered my dream job while I was working a waitressing job, the downside: the owner of the business and my brother dated 7 years ago, and I didn’t want to accept the job without speaking with him first. My brother assures me that it isn’t an issue, he did not care at all, and he was also excited for me to finally get to pave my career.

Fast forward 2 years, my boss and I have grown so close and to be such good friends. She considers me a partner in the business that was originally only hers and I consider her to be one of my best friends. I’ve never made friends easily, and she is the easiest friend I’ve ever made. Keep in mind, I told my girlfriend I wanted everyone I cared about at my proposal to celebrate with us. I’m extremely nosy as well so, naturally, I ask them both why they stopped talking. They both just said it didn’t work out and they weren’t compatible (my boss was also only 20 at the time of dating my brother, furthering my assumption of them not being serious).

My best friend hasn't been helping my gf like she needed, so she reached out to my sister in law, and my other best friend (my boss) for help. As soon as my SIL heard my friend was helping, she got insecure and started comparing the two of them to which my gf reassured her that my brother and SIL have a family together and there’s no reason even for the comparison. My gf thought the issue was resolved there, it was not. My boss and I take vacations at the same time as we’re the only 2 people who work at the business and it’s just eaiser for us to take vacation at the same time. So she has a beach trip planned with her daughter the same week as my family beach trip. My family’s beach is private, so my girlfriend and boss planned to go to a different beach so my boss could hide and take photos while also being on common ground for everyone.

This immediately sets my SIL off… hopefully pt 2 in comments