u/SpecificCommission47

Having a male centered pick-me of a mother is so rough. She's been alive for a lot longer than me obviously, has gone through two failed marriages and is on her third, and still has faith that there are still good ones out there. I'm 22, and just frankly so over it.

I'm doing good work-wise, going back to school again this fall, and am overall doing pretty well for myself since moving to the other side of the US this year on my own.

It literally makes me so disappointed though the fact that no accomplishment I achieve will ever to my mom be as big as getting a boyfriend, engaged, or married. It is so difficult for me to develop feelings for a man considering how much I've learnt throughout my life about male nature, witnessing and experiencing sexism, etc.

I just really wish I had a mother that's badass, educated, strong and her own established woman. Instead I get one that thrives off of male validation and is basically pushing for grandkids

Sorry if this is disorganized, but like I'm just so tired of living with other people like I can't do it anymore. I'm 22, so I'm definitely not in a hurry to get my own place just yet and I'd like to take advantage of cheap housing and roommates to pay off my debt, but it's such a struggle for me.

I moved to Colorado a year ago and have had three sets of roommates. My first two were both employee housing apartments at a ski resort, and I struggled with both. I tend to burn out very easily, and need a lot of alone+quiet time. I work in the restaurant industry, and while I love it, it's super high stress but the money is worth it. I'm going back to school for healthcare, and I just need a living arrangement that isn't fucking exhausting and overstimulating so I can properly recharge.

It's genuinely gotten to a point where every time I move in with roommates I feel like I'm waiting for the other shoe to drop. Either they're gonna have hookups over all the time, friends over and they're super noisy, random people sleeping on the couch. That was my first apartment, asked for a change, and when I got moved elsewhere it was a bit better until my roommate started stealing many of my things and eating my food. And I don't make that much money and half my groceries got eaten so that was a big blow to my bank account especially when she kept lying, denying it, etc.

Now I've gotten what I think is a decent set of roommates, (not employee housing, just regular off of facebook), and the landlord just randomly decided to move into the house and it's awkward as shit because I feel like me and the one other girl living there might get kicked out because he moved in with his wife. I'm genuinely just exhausted and at a loss for words.

Quick vent because I need to know if anyone else feels this way, it literally drives me up a wall. Went into a Goodwill a couple days ago, and of course there's no dressing rooms so most of the time I just go in a fitted tank top and leggings/biker shorts so I can try on jackets and sweaters in front of the mirrors.

Despite being in the women's section, it was about 50% men from all the girls having their boyfriends there shopping with them, most of whom didn't even seem like they wanted to be there. It made me think back to every other uncomfortable shopping experience I've had at a women's store where there's men around and it just makes me feel so weird. Like I can't even put my finger to the feeling.

It's always the worst in lingerie stores (always VS if I'm at the mall) and Aritzia because they don't have mirrors in the changing rooms so you have to go outside in front of everyone shopping. And always without fail in the mirror area is a bunch of... men. Husbands, boyfriends, etc. all sitting in an assembly line waiting for their partners. And while those women probably trust and know those men, I personally don't and it just makes me incredibly uncomfortable every time. Maybe I'm just overthinking it, but I just wish there were more spaces out there for just women to just shop in peace without the presence of men.

Like if you really need your man to critique what you're wearing and "help you shop" for underwear just order that shit online to your house and try it on there. But stop making everyone else in the store uncomfortable