u/SpinIx2

I have a Bumble profile and have had for several months. I occasionally scroll through the profiles of those the algorithm sees fit to suggest to me in an idle moment but I’ve never once swiped on one. Call

me shallow if you will but it’s mostly that I just haven’t found anyone attractive and when I have there’s been something else, a picture that’s offputting or a declaration of devotion to a dog.

This evening, while drying in the sun after a quick swim, I had such a scroll and I thought I was about to break my duck, only 2 years my senior and only 4 miles away, youngest child the same age as mine (well my son will be 17 next week, so close enough), looking for companionship and, to be frank really rather attractive.

And then I spotted it

“I won’t date woke, and value common sense. If you know why that’s important then we will get along.”

This may be a normal thing to come across for those of you of the American persuasion but we don’t really do identity politics in the same way over here in England and I don’t really know how to take this.

It would be trite to suggest that the first sentence is self-contradictory but the second is just plain wrong, I’m pretty sure I do know why it’s important in their opinion and that’s actually the reason we very much may not get along.

Now I’m not especially woke myself but I’m woke enough to be suspicious of the character of someone who finds empathy for others and a belief that inequality is unjust is a reason to rule out spending time with them.