Hey I'm looking for some fun and interesting poly ENM communities in Melbourne Australia. What are your suggestions for warm, friendly, welcoming and supportive groups I can meet with? Thanks in advance!
My husband and I opened our marriage just over 12 months ago. I've been using dating apps like Hinge and Feeld but seem to be always finding dudd inexperienced or toxic connections. I really want to meet more poly people and talk more about ENM partnerships. Do you have any great suggestions for groups I can meet up with? What do they look like? I'm not interested in swinger bars as I am the kinda woman he likes to make deep connections and kinda vet before sleeping with. Thanks x
My secondary partner broke things off pretty abruptly and said his wife was really scared that her feelings of rejection were going to ruin our ENM situation making him resent her and leave her... He also tried to minimize my feelings by calling me his FWB despite going on romantic dates, calling me lover, holding hands. He says I wasn't honest with him about my feelings for him - which he said was me being unethical about not being honest about that. In my mind it was pretty obvious how much I dug him! I keep failing in my ENM relationships... But this one doesn't seem ethical to me. I didn't realize he was hiding such a messy and insecure marriage. He told me to grow up when I tried to explain I felt disrespected. He is a mental health worker too. I know I struggle with rejection, I get really mad when I'm told I'm wrong when I am not... But am I wrong?
I was dating a lovely man for four months. He and his wife are new to ENM. Both have AuDHD. Im ADHD. He said every date was 10/10, and our last date "being the best one yet." He called me less than 24hrs later saying he was ending it because he couldn't tolerate his wifes suffering. It sux because I was always checking in with him regarding her. I don't know her, but I care about how she'd feel. I feel like he then tried to mitigate his responsibility in my pain, saying he was only looking for a FWB, but his behavior and our dates were romantic and beyond my concept of ethical FWB - romantic dinners, hand holding, loads of cuddling etc. Im absolutely devastated and confused. I want answers but I also want to do the right thing and allow them to work out their own issues. I trust and give too much too soon and I feel like I've overwhelmed him. Anyone else familiar with ENM AuDHD breakups?