I think my bf is cheating on me AIO
I’m pretty sure my bf is cheating on me but I don’t know if it necessarily “counts”. A little backstory, my bf (21 M) and I (19 F) have been together for over a year. We have been off on for the last 6 months. The last time we broke up I went out and hooked up with someone, I was open and honest and told him he obviously was not too happy about it. But recently he has been bringing it up CONSTANTLY saying he hasn’t “healed from it” mind you he made it seem like I cheated on him. I had assumed he was just upset about it when he kept bringing it up. (This matters I promise these are the red flags I did not notice till now). And recently he’s been doing nice gestures, taking me out, doing things without me asking (none of this is normal btw).
Well last night we were in a conversation about possibly breaking up he did not care and brushed it off (he’s very emotional). Later that night he tells me “I’m hanging out with Hailey on Tuesday we’re going downtown” I responded “okay” he then responds with “I’ve talked about you to here before and btw she is masculine not feminine”. Him trying to defend himself when I responded okay was odd. Now the “masculine” part matters my bf is trans. He is FTM when he was female he liked more masculine (which I am not, he also has no idea if he is trans or not).
I just brushed it off and went to bed. This morning I needed his phone for whatever reason and I stumbled across their messages. I didn’t click on them because it wasn’t weird if they had these plans obviously they were texting. Until i noticed the muted messages icon. Then I knew something was weird I quickly went on their messages. There were messages from 2024 and then she randomly goes “hey” he responds with those sticker things she responds back with one. Then she goes. “Hey just got home I’ll call you in a little bit” ??? Those messages don’t align unless he deleted some or called her. Then I scrolled down farther and she goes “want go downtown and hangout?” He goes on to talk about something else so there were more messages deleted. He has no idea I know this information and I have no idea what I should do. Does this count as micro cheating since there’s something he’s clearly hiding?
(Also if I do break up with him I would need cameras, and a restraining order seeing as how he stalked me and the other guy countless times and threaten to fight several people, and would need to change the code to my house).
Tell me am I AIO?