Age gaps…
Just wanting some opinions on age gaps. We have a 4 month old now. We constantly swing between do we only want one (because it’s hard) or two as I’ve always imagined.
I can’t imaging baby girl being an only child. But I also don’t love the newborn and young baby stage.
Here’s the thing, if I am going to have two I want a close age gap 18 months approx… but if I am not going to have them that close then I am not sure I want another. The only reason for two in my eyes would be to have someone to play with and be able to do stuff together. If we start pushing a big age gap I’d be having another baby just to have another baby and then I don’t need that. If that makes sense.
I want opinions on anyone who has ever felt similar? Should we just have two baby phases close together to make the life I’ve imagined, two children close in age or not just not bother and love and spoil our one baby girl?
edit:
Sorry lots of people mentioning that I seem to only think 18 months and anything more is big. I have been told by lots of people 18 months is a good age gap. But having another baby when baby girl is 2 is a challenge age so better to wait until 3 yo (which for me is starting to get bigger). Not that I am only open to 18 months just the idea i was thinking…
My siblings and I are 11 and 8 years apart, so not experienced anything closer and we were definitely not friends growing up.