u/SquirrelSuccessful51

I don’t mean she’s asking too much or that her expectations are always higher than what I can do, I mean they are physically impossible.

Over the last year the issue has gotten worse and worse. She will ask me to do something, watch me do something else for five minutes in the same room as her and then ask me if I did that other thing yet. Example I’ll say “I need to brush my teeth before we leave”, then I’ll be in front of her packing the diaper back and changing my daughter’s clothes. Three minutes later she’ll say “did you brush your teeth yet” even though we’ve been in the same room the whole time.

Or we will talk about something before going to bed, then the first thing in the morning she says to me is asking if I did it. As if I got up in the middle of the night without her noticing and did a handful of chores.

It’s incredibly frustrating but more than anything it’s just bizarre. Like I’m not totally sure if she has a strong grip on reality. The other day it manifested in another way. I ran upstairs to send a few emails while my wife was downstairs with our toddler, I was upstairs for ten to maybe fifteen minutes. When I came downstairs my wife started complaining that I left her alone for an hour.

Please stop bringing your childless adults to bars

The title says it all. Please stop bringing your childless adults to bars. Last night my husband, three kids and I are trying to enjoy a nice evening together at our favorite spot, Don't Call Me Shirley, when the entire vibe is ruined by some young adults loudly cursing and speaking inappropriately while getting drunk. The bartender had to take a break from making Shirley temples to make some “mixed drinks” whatever the fuck that is. They are standing there the whole time blocking the area that my kids wanted to run around and play in.

A bar is not a place for childless young adults anyway. That is not the only bar this happens at in the neighborhood and it's becoming a common occurrence. Only families should be at the bar, childless adults should be out there trying to start relationships and procreating before joining us in the community.

ETA: I really don't care what argument is presented, this was not a common issue until about a year or two ago when the demographic of the neighborhood really changed. All these millennials just have a bunch of cats and no kids, back in the day people used to raise families in this neighborhood.

I’m three years into marriage with my wife and we have a two year old. Lately I have become extremely resentful of my wife’s incessant need for relaxation. We both work full time, and my mom watches our daughter during the week except for Friday’s when I work from home and watch her while I’m home. We both cook and clean but I’ll give her the edge that she cooks more often than I do.

My wife has said the words “I’m so tired” every single time she has gotten home from work in the past three years of our marriage. If I’m home earlier than her and pick up our daughter or if it’s Friday and I’ve been with her all day I need to wait at least thirty minutes every night for her to go use the bathroom and change into comfortable clothes every single night before she helps me with anything. I feel that she often rushes our daughter to bed so that she can start relaxing as early as possible. I do the bedtime routine every night as my wife rushes to get sprawled out on the couch. When I come back downstairs there’s a sliver of the couch left for me to sit on and if I ask her to move she says “I was already sitting here”.

She is not an “active” person and does not engage in energetic play with our daughter. That’s fine because I enjoy jumping around and playing like that and it’s fun bonding for us but my wife takes it a step further. Every party or family event it feels like I’m trailing our toddler and keeping an eye on her and my wife seeks out a seat to relax in. I change 10x the amount of diapers she does just by virtue of being the one who notices when it’s full. Last month we got an Airbnb with my siblings and when we got in from the three hour drive my wife and me get the room set up and then I immediately go make sure our daughter is safe in this new house and my wife goes to sit on the couch and chat to my childless siblings.

I’m losing my mind and becoming hyper vigilant of all the little acts of laziness that come up. If our daughter goes down for a nap at 11 and we have somewhere to be that afternoon I’ll go shower while she naps while my wife relaxes and watches tv. Then the second that my daughter wakes up my wife will jump in the shower and start an hour long shower, hair and makeup process while I entertain our daughter and get everything ready.

It doesn’t even just relate to acts of parenting but it’s more apparent there. A few months ago she had one of her most egregious acts of all time and woke me up from a dead sleep to open our window. She was in the same bed in the same room with the window but woke me up rather than walking across the room.

It’s driving me insane but it’s a hard topic to bring up because she gets incredibly defensive, saying the pregnancy was hard on her and even if I do more now it will never equal how she grew our daughter inside her.

Growing up it felt like cheating on your spouse was the most evil thing you could do. It was like this unique horror that everybody knew was wrong.

Now that I’m grown and married and my friends and family are grown and married I’m horrified by how common cheating is.

My ex-wife cheated on me while we were engaged, my brothers wife cheated on him, several of my wife’s coworkers are actively having affairs, I just went to a bachelor party and half the married/engaged men there were hitting on women (no one actually cheated but I don’t think it’s because they were morally opposed).

I don’t know if this is how it’s always been but it seems like the stigma of infidelity has gone away and everybody is just doing it.