u/Srijti_Govham

Hi. My sister gave birth to her cute little daughter 1.5 years ago. She was in so much pain after the c-section that she couldn't sit in the initial days. Doctors also didn't give her any pain killers. Neither did anyone inform her that the quantity of her own milk would reduce if she doesn't feed her baby with her breast milk initially.

And all of that happened. She mostly gave her daughter formula milk and very little of her own breast milk would be made.

Now, whenever my niece gets sick, her in laws blame on my sister for not feeding her breast milk to her daughter. But they were the ones who were with her and there when she was in pain and they saw what her problem was. Anyway, I hate them for torturing my sister. She is in so much trauma because of this. And nobody cares.

I just want to know the baby will be healthy right? She gets all the nutrition, my sister takes extra care of her and makes all her meals customised specially for her seperately. I just don't want that the baby suffers because she couldn't be fed nicely with her mother's breast milk.

Thank you for reading.

I graduated in 2023 with B.A. I wanted to become an IAS officer since childhood (or let's say my father wanted that for me). I started preparing without coaching or guidance. In 2024 march, I got diagnosed with an autoimmune disease. I skipped the exam that year. The following year, I only slept and fell prey to depression. I again skipped the 2025 attempt.

I thought this time I will seriously study and crack the exam for the 2026 attempt. Again, I didn't study. I never finished my syllabus or notes of even one subject. Though whatever I studied, I studied nicely. But I never made mains notes too. I gave the 2026 attempt but didn't qualify prelims, as expected.

Now, I am thinking that maybe this exam is not for me. Not even because I am not capable of it, but because I don't want to do this job. I see how filthy, corrupt and selfish the politicians are. I just don't want to work under them and ruin people's lives even more, even for once.

I started creating content this year and people are loving my content (I basically speak my opinions about life and living). But I don't want to let go of studies. I am interested in English literature and I want to pursue M.A. in it and then maybe a PhD. But since it's already too late, I am 24 now and will be 25 next year when and if I get a college. I am ready to study hard for the qualifying exam to get into a good college.

But the point is, all of it is very scary. Everyone around me knows that I am preparing for this exam. And it was my father's dream to see me as an IAS officer. But more importantly I am scared of the sunk cost fallacy. I want to let go of UPSC, but at the same time, I think, why am I leaving it after investing so much time in this. And since I have long gap period, I feel directionless as to where to go now and what to do. If I do PhD, I might have a job really late, like after I turn 32.

I didn't imagine this life for me when all my friends are settled and I am doing nothing. I feel so low and shattered. I have stopped talking to people. People have stopped giving importance to me. I am crying right now. Please help.

Tldr: gave three years to the preparation. Didn't study nicely ever. Didn't clear the first stage. Now thinking to go for higher studies. But knowing I have invested so much in upsc, I am afraid to move on.

Is it due to multiple sclerosis? I will be consulting my neurologist but I am a little scared what is it.

Hi all. So, my sister has a daughter of 1 year and she loves abroad with her daughter and her husband. So, she has to do most of housework and baby care because her husband works.

I can sense she has postpartum depression or something. She doesn't have time for herself at all. I just want her to have some sence of life and feel valued. Is there a way I can do that for her? Like joining some mons community or earning some money? Or anything? I just want her to have some freetime from the baby zone.

Hi. I am a female voiceover artist. I am a writer and I read what I write on instagram. I also habe another page where I dub female bolluwood actresses. People do love my content though I have recently started creating content.

I can do voiceover in Hindi and Indian English accent. I am also good with american accent but not very comfortable doing that. I also have an external microphone with noise cancellation.

If you are looking for a voiceover/dubbing role and would want to exolore considering me, kindly reply. I shall send you my portfolio

Hi. I want to become an animator. I am a writer and a voice actor. I want to make short films or series for youtube through animation and my other capabilities.

I am looking for someone who can help me with learning animation. If someone has started, we can work on it together. Preferred age group is 20-30 years.

Can you suggest me books that give some message or insight on human relationships? I am not looking for self help or non fiction. I want fictional stories. Short stories would be best. Novels are also very much welcome.

Where are you all doing current affairs from? I have never read current affairs this year. I don't know from where should I read to be able to complete it by the exam. Please help. I saw there is BPSC wallah handout of 1 year. But it has only 100 pages. Idk if that is enough.

Are there singers/instrumentalists who would want to create a music band together? I am a singer (still learning though) and I want to be able to jam and create music with other performers out there.

Guys, I mistakenly submitted wrong pincode of my correspondence address😭😭😭 will bpsc open a correction window???😭😭😭

Hi. Can I know which optional from PSIR or Sociology is better, considering the paper is now objective? I know both the subjects as I had them in my grad. Also, can you suggest me the sources for both the subjects?

Pata hai aaj kya hua

Main 23 yr old unemployed ladki hu jo ki govt job ki prep kr ri hai. Main apne papa ke saath ghar pe rehti hu aur we have kept a cook.

Bhai is cook ne itna dimag kharab kar rakha hai. Inko ek to kuch banana nahi aata- jo aata bhi hai kaccha banake nikal jaati h (mostly roti sabzi chawal dal). Ab inse kuch acha banwane jao to 4 baatein sunayengi ki kahi aur to unko koi nai bolta kuch aur banane kyuki log khane ke shokhiya nai h.

Bhai meko auron se kya?? Main hu khane ki shokhiya merse nai khaya jaata apka khana aur aapko paise mil re h khana banane ke to banaiye jo hamein khana ho. Mind you wo sab me main khud unki madad karti hu. Phir bhi nakhre nahi kam hote inke. Jis din kuch acha banwa lo thoda time deke us din baki sab chizon ka gudgobar kar dengi.

Aaj to bhai sandwich banwaya subah wo bhi bas mere aur unke liye kyuki papa ko office jana tha. Karela dopahar ke liye bana ke gyi bhai pura kaccha. Dopahar me maine aadhe ghante usko bhoona.

Bhai jab unka kaam bhi main hi krungi to wo kya krengi??

Bartan ka alag soap rehta h pura laga usme. Jhadu pocha bhi nai aata theek se krne. Kuch nai aata.

Kyu rakha hai inko?? Kyuki mujhe ek autoimmune disease bhi h jiski wajah se mujhe symptoms hue to jaana pad skta h emergency me hospital ya phir ghar me khana banane wala koi chahiye. Papa ka to office hi rehta hai. Still he cooks good things for us jab time mile but wo aunty nahi banayengi.

Meko itna gussa aa raha hai meko bhagana hai inko bhai bohot ho gya roz mera khoon khaulati h khane me koi taste bhi nai hota h. Kitni baar bola h theek se kaam krne ab main kitchen me hi khadi rahu kya dekhne ke liye ki wo sahi se kaam kr ri ya nahi?? To main kab padhungi??

Unko to acha khana bana ke main hi khila deti hu technically she should pay me.

Tldr: househelp is kaamchor and I want to kick her out.

Hi. My permanenet address (home) is in Jharkhand but my domicile is in Bihar (my parents homes and our properties). I also have the Bihar domicile certificate. All my other documents have my Jharkhand address. I am a female candidate. What should I fill in the permanent address column in the form in order to avail quota benefits? The bihar address or the Jharkhand address?

So, I never had a dream of my own. And I was doing quite good in life (mentally) (at least that what I thought). It was because I thought everyone else's dreams for me are my own dreams. So, I had no doubt I want to become an IAS officer. The moment I discovered that I have exceptional talents and started working towards that and gaining recognition (I even got selected for the studio round of a digital singing reality show), everybody turned up against me. They all created drama and that's when I saw them in the real sense. They never loved me. They loved their version of me. They loved the me who was in control, who was all pleasing people and being submissive and innocent. They are fine with me being depressed and going nowhere but at least studying 24/7. But they won't be fine if I am happy, independent and doing what I want to do.

I have finally given in. Nobody is talking to me and I am talking to nobody. Now, I am again back to square zero and studying full time for government exams. Now my only goal is to clear a government exam and fuck off from their lives, never to look back. I will never forget what they did to me.

TLDR: My family has forced me to prepare for a govt job and now I am going to do only that and fuck off from their lives forever.