u/StAsBy52

For me, getting sober nearly 16 months ago after being completely written off changed everything. Since then I’ve started rebuilding properly — gym, accountability, clearer routines, regaining my values and slowly feeling more like myself again.

Not overnight, but enough to realise real change is possible when you finally stop ignoring certain patterns. Now know that I can enjoy life without it. Love the fact I've done it my way and proved people wrong.

Interested what other people would honestly say theirs has been. Big or small.

Sleepless at night wondering if certain habits, routines, or patterns are quietly becoming a problem?

I work in a real-life coaching role and have worked with hundreds of people facing difficult periods, addiction issues, burnout, isolation, confidence loss, unemployment, divorce/separation, routine collapse, and rebuilding life after setbacks.

Alongside professional experience, I also bring lived experience of recovery, rebuilding routines, relapse cycles, and trying to quietly rebuild life properly.

I’m now offering anonymous accountability, addiction support, and rebuild buddy support for people wanting structure, consistency, and someone genuinely in their corner. While I expect many clients may be men in their 30s and 40s rebuilding after difficult periods, support is open to all adults.

Long term, I want to build my own accountability/rebuild-focused business, which is why support is currently being kept affordable while I build independently.

Support can include:

Addiction support & spotting unhealthy patterns early

Routine rebuilding

Motivation & consistency

Burnout & isolation

Rebuilding after divorce or breakups

Gym/self-improvement accountability

Daily check-ins & habit tracking

✅ Anonymous support both ways

✅ Daily accountability check-ins

✅ Evening support during difficult hours

✅ All time zones welcome

If interested, I’m also happy to privately share parts of my own anonymous rebuild story and journey where helpful.

This is not therapy or medical treatment — just grounded accountability and support from someone who genuinely understands rebuilding.

DM with your goals, timezone, and what support you’re looking for.

As it says on tin. I apologise for typos -.shortsighted.

Wellbeing meeting was held.at 4.weeks.ago. Child.(11).about to go to.high school. Long.story she displayed signs of distress so.a.wellbeing meeting was held. Advocate appointed. All.going.well,.saw..my child.2 weekends ago. All.fine.

Thursday ex dropped bombshell she is moving circa 2 hours away feom.city with child..Advocate pulled.out and.told school.she had been misled. I.then got message that child.doesnt want.to see.me.amd.scated..

She'd.messaged.lots before.

Spent Thursday night preparing a writ, emailed.in..Sheriff clerk saw evidence and agreed to.sign writ.

Initial courtt proceedings on Thursday begin.Have to.defend myself.as.due lawyer 2k.

Writ is child.focussed ill be honest and told clerk I.had.previiosly had an alcohol issue. Its 16 months sober carbohydrate test passed and clerk said historic.

Was.also victims.of.domestic abuse -.coded on NHS and Drs leetter stating such. Lawyer has lot of work.she had done, but cant touch as due firm 2k.she knew I was telling truth and said just pay. In small.amounts

We.have an uunvaried minute of agreement signed by judge stating child.with .me.2 nights. Travel.times.mean I cant afford.or.timewise get daughter for contact or.midweek meets -.I know she'll.want to.see. me.less now shes older and at high school, (only 11)..two huge life changes, a d Ex has admitted she basically lied to school., Advocate, child.and me.

Any dads in UK especially scotlsnd with experience of defending themselves in court. Got Sherriff to sign paper today, getting served on Monday to ex - relocating child.quicjly altering to.advocate .school.amd.me.-.suddenly relocating child and initial hearing Thursday.