u/StarboundSalem

dating - it's never gonna happen for me

i'm giving up on dating at this point. i've had nothing but unsuccessful ventures.

i've been out since high school, and every guy i went on a date with ended up being transphobic.

now since i've been in college, it's been almost the same thing. lots of guys who i talk to or match with online are like 'yeah i only like women and trans men' or something along those lines (which generally just puts me off). on a few rare occasions (which have only been dating apps), i've matched, hit it off with someone, and then they reveal they're actually a femme-aligned gender identity and didn't update their profile. i'm very much gay, and only am attracted to men, so my attraction is killed off almost instantly.

i literally can't win. like, i am basically the least date-having person ever. being a trans poc makes it especially hard, where i go to a pwi with a lot of 'hidden' racists/transphobes.

what do i even do? i'm starting to resign my thoughts. i don't want to give up entirely, ive never actually been fully on a date because it always ends prematurely because of something i mentioned before. but fuck, i'm losing hope.

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u/StarboundSalem — 3 days ago
▲ 361 r/TransMasc

passing for bathroom safety

at places which only have a male/female bathroom, i still don't know which to go into, and i'll admit, i'm scared how i might be passing.

i still get ma'am'ed quite a bit, and i don't know if it's just my voice or something else. i do bind, i'm just chubby and it doesn't really... do anything.

any tips/opinions are appreciated

u/StarboundSalem — 3 days ago