u/StariaXT

So, I've been on HRT for 2 years and 4ish months now and the fact that my breast growth has become not noticeable for a while now is making me sad, honestly.

From February 2024 to February 2025, I was on cyproterone and estradiol gel and my breast development was pretty clear, with the pains and all (my estradiol levels were just barely below 200 pg/mL), but in February/March 2025, I switch to pills because it is a more comfortable way of intaking medicine in my opinion and my estradiol levels did get significantly lower (from 13 pg/mL at their lowest to 69 pg/mL at their highest), so I just switched back to the gel February of this year, so I truly think that's why it stagnated for that whole year.

Since then, my estradiol levels have gotten pretty high (342 pg/mL in the latest blood test I did), but the breast development situation hasn't improved at all. I started to feel breast pains more frequently just like before, however there's not much growth going on.

Is it a genetics things? My mother does have big breasts, but my cis sister was in a pretty similar situation to mine regarding breast size until she got breast augmentation when she was in college (unfornately, that wasn't really a possibility for me). My sister was on birth contral from her mid-10s all the way to her late twenties though, so I don't know if her breasts didn't really develop much because of that or if it was a genetics thing, hope you could enlighten me about that.

I always see these girls on twitter on progesterone with huge breasts, is progesterone the way? With my estradiol levels, there should be more growth, right?

My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year now, and in the first months, we had no problems regarding our sex life. But, since his college classes and work started in early March, the situation regarding that has gotten quite a bit worrying for me.

I actually noticed in the months prior to March that he grew uninterested in talking about sex stuff, sending nudes, etc., through messages (much different from how he used to act when we got to know each other). However, he still showed a lot of interest when it came to real life, so I was ultimately fine with it.

But, when March came by and his life became so much busier, he started to not care about real life intimacy either. Before that, he would always initiate sex, fool around or ask me to do things to him when the time was right, and I would always follow through, because I've always liked it. Well, he eventually just stopped initiating or ask for sex at all, which lead me to discuss this with him, where I made it clear that sex is a need for me in a relationship, pretty much. Once, before our discussion, I tried to initiate sexual contact by kissing his neck while we were watching something on TV, while on the couch and in the dark, and he gently pushed me away, for example.

In this discussion, he talked about maybe being asexual, but he never talked about being asexual before and, given the frequency with which he initiated sex before, it didn't make much sense to me. I warned him that I didn't know if I could date someone who is asexual, even though I very much wanted us to keep dating, and that was that. Since we discussed this, he has indeed started initiating sex again, but it never seems like he's as into it as he was before and, a lot of the time, it feels forced, actually. He says things like "Isn't this what you wanted?" regarding sex and, as the title says, he doesn't seem to care if he cums or not during the act.

He tells me, "I don't need to cum", or "You don't need to keep doing this" if I come first, etc., and I just can't understand why someone would tell their partner that while doing it and being aroused (because his body has never stopped reacting to the stimuli).

And, since March as well, when his life got busier, he has grown much more attached to me emotionally. Since then, we started to spend half of the week together and he always plans dates now. It's as if the closer he got emotionally, the farther he got sexually? He's the best boyfriend I could ever imagine, but I really miss what we had before in that sense.

Note: antidepressants are a very common cause of reduction in sex drive, but no, he's not on any, nor does he take any regular meds, as far as I know.