u/StaticClouds

I'm not non-binary myself, but two of my friends are (both use she/they pronouns), and I've been thinking this question for a while now. I've always thought that non-binary falls under its under umbrella since it takes away from the binary norm, but now I'm curious 🤔

Usually, I'm not the type of person to get angry easily. Frustrated, sure. Maybe even annoyed. But anger is something that I avoid feeling because it gives me a headache, and I just plain don't like it.

However, sometimes I let myself be angry. And this is one of those times.

My cousin (25F) — who I'll just call A — has been coming over a lot recently. Currently I (18F) stay with my aunt due to housing issues (don't ask.) Anyway, she comes over to see my aunt and/or my other cousins (aunt and A aren't related.)

I don't really know what they talk about when she comes over, but I guess it's just small talk and gossip. Except, for some reason, she's been talking shit about my parents.

Okay so, a week ago, A calls up my dad asking if he'll come over to fix the headlight or something on her car. My dad refuses because she lives like, 30 minutes away and gas is expensive. This isn't the first time she's done this either. Sometimes she'll call him once or twice a week and just ask for favors like "can you pick me up from Reno" or "something's wrong with my car, please fix it for me." And the thing is, she never offers him gas money or anything! And she's talking to my aunt about this like my dad's being a dick, but when we have car troubles or hardships, she doesn't help us either.

Then she talks about my mom. Something to note is that A has always hated my mom. Even when A is being "nice" to her I can tell that she's lying. So, over a year ago, my mom started going to rehab to get over her drug addiction, and I'm honestly proud of her.

And so sometimes when A calls, my mom talks about her rehab meetings and how much progress she's been making. However, when A is talking to my aunt about it she talks about my mom going to rehab like she's some spoiled princess and is just going to seek attention and rub in everyone's faces.

As you can tell in the post so far, A is a two-faced bitch, and on top of that, a hypocrite. She comes at my mom thinking she's "better than everyone else", but then A herself gambles and does drugs every week like she's part of the cool kids at a frat party.

And look, I love my parents, but I can admit that they've done some shitty things in the past, but they're actively trying to fix things. What the fuck is she doing? She complains about her job, gambles away all her money, abuses her partner, is an alcoholic, a druggie, will never see her kids again — who the FUCK does she think she is?

Anyway, I think this is all I had to vent lol

For context, I (18F), currently stay at my aunt's house until I can find somewhere better to live. A few of my cousins also live in the house and are all adults older than I am.

My first cousin (24F), who I'll just call A, is not related to my second cousin (27M), who I'll call E. After my mom and dad married, A and E became close friends, but kinda lost touch for a while before very recently. A comes over often and usually also brings her boyfriend, and they hang out in the garage where E also sleeps and stuff. They also smoke weed and vape too. I leave the house whenever she comes over because, tbh, she scares me a little.

I found out about the whole coke thing when one of my cousins came home from work and asked his older brother, "hey, did you know A and E are doing coke in the garage?" And then he goes to tell my aunt, and apparently, she already knew. And just doesn't care.

And it's not like A comes over just to see E, she also comes to see my aunt but it's only if she wants to sell or buy drugs from her – usually pills like Xanax or Adderall.

Listen, I don't hate my aunt by any means, but I recognize that she is a major hypocrite. First off, she bans everyone from drinking alcohol in the house, but doesn't give a single fuck that one of her kids is doing drugs in her house. And I get that she's been under major stress lately considering she doesn't have a lot of money to pay bills and is very close to losing this house, but this is how you lose it faster!! She had more problems with E being an alcoholic than him literally being a fucking junkie.

She babies this motherfucker more than her younger sons. She's threatened to kick him out twice, and then changes her mind because "I don't wanna see him go homeless 🥺" THEN PUT HIM IN FUCKING REHAB. My God this lady drives me crazy.

Okay, not necessarily a question regarding how to fix a car, but rather it's about something about my dad's truck.

My dad has had this truck since 2022, and before that it was my grandpa's. It has expired tags and what not so he needs to move it before it gets towed. But the problem is is that the engine isn't getting any oil, so he can't exactly drive it right now.

My uncle says he can fix it up for free, but in order to do it he need the pink slip to the truck. Now, I don't anything about cars or stuff like that, but I'm pretty sure a mechanic doesn't need a pink slip in order to fix a car, but what do I know. It definitely does smell fishy tho.

If anyone has any tip on how to fix a broken engine that doesn't get any oil, please lmk. And is my uncle trying to scam my dad?

Like, imagine you see a kid waiting in line at an ice cream truck but they don't have any money, so you decide to give them $5. Then, after they buy the ice cream, you say to them, "I'm gonna need you to pay me back the $5 I gave you."

And I'm only speaking from experience, because when I was twelve my aunt took me and my cousins to the mall and she gave me $20 to spend it on something. And I did. But then when I got home she says to me, "you need to repay me the $20 because I let you borrow it." Like???

I feel like with teenagers it's a bit different since most of them start to have jobs and such, but still. If you're giving a child money and they aren't old enough to have a job yet, don't expect them to repay you! Or better yet, don't give them money at all at that point.