am I being selfish with distributing free accommodations among family?
I am getting married this October in the town where I grew up and currently live an hour away from.
We have lots of family flying in from Europe including all of my mom‘s siblings who haven’t visited her at the same time since her own wedding thirty years ago as well as her childhood best friend.
Long story short we have two guest houses which my mom manages and blocked out for the wedding that have six bedrooms that are currently allocated to my moms brother, two sisters, childhood best friend. That leaves two bedrooms one of which I have asked to save for my best friend who can’t drive and is also virtually my only friend attending.
My fiance is upset with me because he invited his sister‘s brother in law, his BIL‘s brother and his BIL’s parents and they are flying from California which is expensive and he feels it isn’t fair that all of our accommodations are going to my side of the family which I understand kind of.
I really do want to share with him and be fair but I also feel that guests who have I have known for decades and are immediate family obviously take priority over people who we have only known for a handful of years. Again we also own these homes, are missing out on the profit (they would definitely be rented otherwise) and my parents are paying for the entire wedding. His are helping us out with a down payment to reciprocate which is so kind.
The wedding is 90% my family because ours is huge compared to his but he has met EVERY SINGLE GUEST! And it kind of feels like he is just inviting people so that he feels that his side is represented too which is totally valid! but again we have only met the family (his brother in law and parents - and also his sister who is married is not even attending due to visa issues) who he wants to give our limited accommodations to maybe four times and I just can’t justify putting one of my mom‘s siblings in a hotel so that he can make them happy. But maybe I am being selfish? I just feel that whenever we talk about it he gets so defensive but it feels to me like it really is fair for the closest family members to be given accommodations.
Edit- just to be clear the guests he wants the rooms for are his sister‘s brother‘s parents and his friends from California. His immediate family is local.