u/Status_Result9773

I am neurotypical and the person I'm seeing is neurodivergent. When he has a long day at work, he says he can't take in any new information when I tell him about the things I've learned that day, especially if they involve explaining complex social structures (I've been binging The Crown lately and wanted to explain the royal family to him). He'll often change the subject if I talk about these things. My mom (who I highly suspect is autistic) would do the same, leaving me to fend for myself. He is the sweetest otherwise. Is there anything I can do to make our connection/communication better so I can still talk about my interests or do I have to accept that we're not compatible in that area?

Dating someone who thinks he is Aspie. I naturally put in a lot of energy into understanding people and he's no exception. I can tell when he's feeling anxious or uncomfortable and I swiftly move us into a location I know he'll be more comfortable. Sometimes I feel like my emotional labor is overlooked and underappreciated simply because he does not realize I'm doing all of this for him. Do you think he notices?