u/Stella_shady

I have to return to work in 2 weeks and I’m getting anxious about it. I wfh and my job it’s pretty flexible but I spend a lot of my day in meetings. My mom is coming to stay with us to look after 3.5 month old. I’m so scared for the transition because she only contact naps and we co sleep plus she’s just been a colicky baby. I’m just not ready to return and have to hear here cry when I’ll be in meetings and not able to sooth her. Tell me it will be ok

My 11 1/2 week old has been struggling with napping for over a month where she’s been going down crying plus waking up crying for every nap. All naps are contact naps but like clock work she wakes up at a 35 minute mark crying and sometimes I can get her back down but other times I can’t. I know she can’t connect sleep cycles at this point but everything with naps right now is so difficult. Yesterday she had two hour+ naps but then in the afternoon she had a 15 minute and then a 35 minute naps and she was so upset. Already doing dark room with white noise and rocking and swaying but she’s just struggling so much plus she’s colicky. Is this going to get any better I dread every nap because she’s going to fight in the beginning middle and end.

My LO will be 8 weeks this week and will feel like BF hasn’t gotten easy yet and I’m losing my mind.

We have had a rough start to latching issues where we needed a nipple shield and then one day kicked it to the curb. She struggled with my overactive letdown where she seems like she’s drowning, fighting for her life. She sucks in a bunch of air and cries and pushes away even though I know she’s hungry. But she snacks all day long and doesn’t get a solid feed ever. We have gone to see a LC twice and the last time they told me her latch was good and she got 2oz in 4 minutes. The thing is she’s still struggling no matter what positions I try to help her that help with fast letdown. I would say she cries and fights 70% of the time and 30% where I can enjoy bf her. I’ve notice some changes where she can sometimes latch back on herself but then half the time she’s slipping and sliding and then she gets frustrated and freaks out.

I will have to go back to work, but I wfh so she’ll only need a bottle some of the time, but I really hate seeing her with a bottle. It hurts my soul to see her use a bottle even though I am pumping 1-2 times a day for this reason. I typically pump when she’s refusing so much to bf so that I use that time when she would have fed and I usually get 2-3 oz during that time. It makes me sad that she could be getting that from me instead of a bottle.

I just don’t know if this get easier, plus my husband gets frustrated when he hears her crying and struggling and just wants to immediately give her a bottle and thinks I’m the issue and it’s adding to the stress of me rethinking myself constantly. I’m almost at my breaking point.