Update on civil suit against Ex -T and her former employer.
Update to older post. Civil suit against Ex -T and her former employer…
We are still in the thick of the lawsuit but a settlement has been offered by both defendants. It’s a very large malpractice insurance offer(s) (7 figures) yet, I still am conflicted about wanting this to go to trial. My attorney is telling me to take the offers and try and put this behind me…I just kinda want therapist to answer to what she did in a public forum. I kinda need that. I don’t know what to. It’s never been about $, always accountability. My lawyer states she can’t guarantee a jury will award as much but ultimately it is my decision
As for the Board, they have informally made ex t be supervised while the investigation plays out. In reality I am assured by my attorney that once settlement is sent to the Board, she will have her licence revoked almost immediately.
Ex t is advertising as a life coaching right now. Good luck in NJ.
The worst part for me personally is as bad as she was to me, she was also kind other times. I feel sad a lot about what happened and am working on it with PhD and IOP but it’s still so hard. Grieving but anger for what she did me. It’s killing me
Thank
You all who have followed this story and have not doubted me.
I’m ve been banned from the “therapist” forum bc I had a few supposed therapist doubt my story and say I’m a loony tune l without knowing me and my whole story. I responded a little unkind.. o well
Update to older post(s)
So I wanted to give an update about what has been going on since my last post(s). I appreciate so many of you taking the time to offer me advice and good wishes. This has been devastating and I’m only surviving one day at a time, one minute, one second at a time.
My old therapist has now been reported by a third mental health professional regarding her treatment of me. This most recent report was specifically about how the therapist asked me to write to the Board and deny all the accusations in the original complaint(s) and specifically to deny that gifts were taken.
Ironically, she asked me to do this via a text.
I am not sure she has been made aware of this 3rd report as of yet BUT she has been served a Cease and Desist, a legal notice of representation of me and a request for my records.
There is no communication between us at this point. It’s been about 2 weeks.
This situation Is honestly a pain in my soul that I never knew could exist. I am devastated over this loss and I literally feel like I am dying. My mind is so dark and I am so tortured. Some times I don’t know if I’m going to be able to go on. Most times ending it all seems to be the most logical. My heart aches so bad. I love her.
I do know though that reality is that Although for the past 8 years I have been in “treatment” I really just was in a “relationship” where I loved a person with everything I had only to be fooled into thinking she loved me too. She was a therapist who abused her power, enjoyed being worshipped and took advantage of me. I went to a therapist for help but instead I’ve not grown, improved or become independent but instead I regressed am majorly depressed and I have become more dependent. I’ve given and given just hoping to buy a little more of her time and attention but in the end, it just became expected and not even a simple “thank you” could she manage from out of her lips. I meant nothing. I was her guaranteed 3x a week paycheck and even after she was under investigation and couldn’t officially see me anymore, she continued to benefit. It was never about helping me.
So, The attorney says that this is the worst case of exploitation that she has ever seen in her career.
There is so much evidence that it will be impossible for a defense. She did all of this herself. She knew better or should have known better. It’s sickening.
Yet…I still love her and I miss her. I feel terrible for her. I am so worried about her. Im sure she is going through hell right now and that hurts me. I don’t wish pain on anyone. I have empathy. Im also sure she must absolutely HATE ME.
Me, well Im suffering differently. I’m grieving the loss of this relationship. I’m grieving what I thought was my best friend..my person…it hurts. I have a lot of healing to do and learning to maybe love myself a little bit for once.
I’ve since started an IOP and am still iso a PhD or PsyD. I need a lot of help. It’s gonna take a lot of work. I don’t think I’ll ever get past this maybe I can learn to accept it. Honestly just to continue living is going to be a struggle that I might need some help with right now. I’m trying to stay strong. I just want the pain to stop.
I know this was long and not well written. It’s late and I’m just writing my thoughts. Again thank you all who have been so supportive.
For those who think that my posts are made up stories or whatever… God Bless you. I don’t wish this heartbreak and pain on anyone.