u/Straight_Raisin7937

Assalamualaikum,

Let’s talk about the biggest fraud happening in Muslim matrimonial circles right now.

Some guys (especially the ones who travel abroad or live in the West) are offering "temporary marriage" to young girls. They make it sound so religious — "It’s halal", "Short term Nikah", "No strings attached"...

But in reality? They are just treating sisters like disposable objects. Use them for a few weeks or months for fun, then say "term is over, khalaas" and move on to the next one.

This is not marriage. This is legalized zina with extra steps. These men don’t want responsibility, they don’t want a real wife, they just want a halal body on rent. And the worst part? They twist Islamic terms to justify their lust while destroying a girl’s reputation and future marriage prospects.

Real question for the brothers doing this:
Would you be okay with your own sister or daughter being in a "temporary marriage" with some guy who will discard her after he’s satisfied?

Sisters: Have you or anyone you know been approached for Mutah/temporary marriage? How common is this filth?

This community needs to call out this nonsense. Temporary marriage culture is turning Muslim men into users and Muslim girls into temporary pleasure tools.

Bismillah,

Sisters especially, I need to expose this disgusting trend happening in our rishta culture.

How many of you (or your friends/family) have married men who seemed normal during engagement but on the wedding night or honeymoon suddenly can't perform? Then the excuses start pouring in: I didn't know, It's stress, It will get better, Just pray more...

BROTHER PLEASE.

You are 28-35, watching porn daily, masturbating like it's a full-time job, and you want us to believe you "didn't know" you have Erectile Dysfunction?? You're lying straight to our faces while destroying a girl's life and future. These men are getting married knowing full well they have ED or severe performance issues but hide it because they want a young virgin bride to fix them or to cover their shame.

In arranged marriages they act all pious and shy, but the reality is many are impotent or half-men who can't satisfy their wives. Then the poor girl is trapped can't even speak about it because of izzat and family pressure. Meanwhile the guy’s mother says "beta thoda time do, sab theek ho jayega."

This is straight-up deception and haram. If you have ED, be honest before marriage instead of ruining someone's daughter. Stop lying and stop wasting women's youth and fertility.

Men of this sub: How many of you are guilty? Will you admit it or keep hiding behind "stress" and "InshaAllah"?

Sisters: Share your experiences (anonymously). How common is this fraud in Pakistani marriages? Has this happened to you or someone you know?

Assalamualaikum everyone,

I've been lurking here for a while and I can't hold this in anymore. Why is the Pakistani marriage market so toxic and transactional?

Parents parade their daughters like cattle at a fair – "fair skin, slim, educated but not too much, submissive, good cook, will serve in-laws like a slave." Meanwhile, guys demand a "homely" wife who earns well but doesn't have a career, brings a fat dowry, and pops out kids on command.

If a girl is over 25, she's "expired inventory." If she's outspoken or wants love before marriage, she's "too modern" and "will ruin the family." But boys can be 35+, jobless, bald, with a belly, and still demand a 22-year-old virgin model who comes with a house.

Arranged marriages are glorified slavery dressed up as "culture and deen." Half the rishtas here are basically "my son needs a nurse + maid + ATM." Where's the respect, compatibility, or actual Islamic values? Or is it all just about izzat, biradari, and showing off at the walima?