u/Strange-Wish-895

Ex and I have been nc for almost 7 months now. In the begining the pain I went through was self blame, missing him, missing the relationship, or at least what I thought it was. Missing the person I was and how I felt, basically the fantasy.

These last months have been a roller coaster of suffering! But Id say for a month now I havent thought of him as much and the pain has pretty much been gone for a bit longer than that. I cant tell what a relief it was to look back and not be in pain.

But two nights ago something changed I started having flash backs. Not just thinking about all the crappy things he did but certain occasions where I was severely abused. And these memories are causing so much hurt. I almost feel like the truama bond is a defense mechanism shielding you from the devastation while its going on. Denial. I think Im pretty much over the truama bond bc before when Id think back to the SA and other incidents they werent torturous as they are now when having flash backs.

Im not really sure what Im going through. All I know is I suffered during the relationship, during the break up and still now. I knkw everyone heals in their own time. I just hope Im not stuck in this hell forever. Before meeting him I didnt know someone could be so cruel and selfish. I didnt know your mind and emotion could get hijacked. I didnt know I could be used, controlled and abused so easily. I want my life back. I want to be me again but now Im not so sure thats possible. I was soft, kind, open, and trusting....I dont know what I am anymore

Hello,

My father lives in fl and I live in ca. He stopped living in his home and is with my cousin who claims to have poa. She has isolated him from family and friends by blocking phone numbers. I have spoken to family in FL that say they havent seen him in months and years but on rare occasions they state hes lost massive weight and wears dirty clothes. I had a wellness check and when they talked to a family member they stating thay poa bragged about telling my father what to do and he listens and does what she asked. That she was going to remove my name from the deed and put hers there. I recently found out my father was hospitalized and when I called poa denied my rights to know whats happening with my father. I also found out hes been in the hospital three other times and I was given no notice. I secretly speak to my father through burner numbers bc my number is block as is his friends here in CA. The other day she picked up the phone when I called and made it a point to tell me my father gave her his car and property. I informed her that my name was on the deed, she quickly asked my father and he replied 'I dont know ' I told hospital staff that I was concerned about his isolation and possible exploitation and asked for them to open an investigation but was denied. I called the abuse hotline and way told I didnt have enough evidence to open a case. But I have no way of getting medical and financial records. I just have the police report, dates if blocked calls, reports from family and friends. Poa has a criminal record of battery, domestic violence and a felony in 2021 of child abuse while getting paid to care for a young girl. Im very concerned about my father's well being and I feel like its obvious what poa is doing but no one is giving me the time of day without physical evidence.

Getting back into shape and looking for a serious buddy for accountability check ins and challenges to keep things fun and motivating. Open to any legal age or gender just as long as youre on the journey and available to be committed to reaching their goal.